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<blockquote data-quote="MissLulu" data-source="post: 758510" data-attributes="member: 24721"><p>Trying, most of us here have kids with similar diagnoses. My own son has depression, anxiety and Borderline or Bipolar 2 depending on who you listen to. (Symptoms are similar but treatment is different.) I recognise much of the behaviour of your son as it is very similar to my own son’s. My son has a problem with marijuana, though, not alcohol.</p><p></p><p>My point is, many (if not most) of us have kids just like your son. We understand. We’ve been there or we are still there. And that’s why you are hearing the same message over and over again. You cannot fix him. Only he can fix his life. You can support him of course, but right now what he needs is for you to get out of the way.</p><p></p><p>In my opinion, based on my own experience with my son, this suicidal posturing is just another way that he can avoid taking responsibility for his life. The more you engage with this; the more you assist him in this avoidance.</p><p></p><p>You can’t fix him, but you can work on yourself. My advice? Set boundaries. Stick to them. Stop letting yourself be sucked into your adult son’s drama. I say this with full understanding of how hard this is for mothers. I still struggle with it myself. But right now you seem to be in a holding pattern. I don’t see how things will change for you if you keep doing the same thing over and over.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MissLulu, post: 758510, member: 24721"] Trying, most of us here have kids with similar diagnoses. My own son has depression, anxiety and Borderline or Bipolar 2 depending on who you listen to. (Symptoms are similar but treatment is different.) I recognise much of the behaviour of your son as it is very similar to my own son’s. My son has a problem with marijuana, though, not alcohol. My point is, many (if not most) of us have kids just like your son. We understand. We’ve been there or we are still there. And that’s why you are hearing the same message over and over again. You cannot fix him. Only he can fix his life. You can support him of course, but right now what he needs is for you to get out of the way. In my opinion, based on my own experience with my son, this suicidal posturing is just another way that he can avoid taking responsibility for his life. The more you engage with this; the more you assist him in this avoidance. You can’t fix him, but you can work on yourself. My advice? Set boundaries. Stick to them. Stop letting yourself be sucked into your adult son’s drama. I say this with full understanding of how hard this is for mothers. I still struggle with it myself. But right now you seem to be in a holding pattern. I don’t see how things will change for you if you keep doing the same thing over and over. [/QUOTE]
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