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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 716639" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Oh Honey, I do know. It's just the way things went was...difficult.</p><p></p><p>There are no better people in the whole world than your parents. When it comes to your sisters and brother - I couldn't ask for better in-laws, really. It's not them.</p><p></p><p>I have a hard time with the whole, "How you behave reflects on ME" aspect of parenting. After all, we all know that when people see a kid who's homeless or in jail or whatever, they always say, <em>"They must have crappy parents."</em> or <em>"Where are the parents?"</em> or <em>"Didn't their parents teach them anything."</em> Which, BEING one of "those parents" we all KNOW that isn't fair at all. Kids do what they do and we can't control how they turn out. But people think it and say it. You hear it all the time and it makes me feel defensive. So because your family does know how he's behaved and the issues we've had, it makes me feel kinda "judged"- not really the right word but I can't think of another.</p><p></p><p>I'm pretty darn sure MY OWN sibling does feel that way, because he is of course, perfect.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 716639, member: 17309"] Oh Honey, I do know. It's just the way things went was...difficult. There are no better people in the whole world than your parents. When it comes to your sisters and brother - I couldn't ask for better in-laws, really. It's not them. I have a hard time with the whole, "How you behave reflects on ME" aspect of parenting. After all, we all know that when people see a kid who's homeless or in jail or whatever, they always say, [I]"They must have crappy parents."[/I] or [I]"Where are the parents?"[/I] or [I]"Didn't their parents teach them anything."[/I] Which, BEING one of "those parents" we all KNOW that isn't fair at all. Kids do what they do and we can't control how they turn out. But people think it and say it. You hear it all the time and it makes me feel defensive. So because your family does know how he's behaved and the issues we've had, it makes me feel kinda "judged"- not really the right word but I can't think of another. I'm pretty darn sure MY OWN sibling does feel that way, because he is of course, perfect. [/QUOTE]
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