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Very rude, disrespectful 17-year-old son
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<blockquote data-quote="CDN_DAD_in_tough" data-source="post: 733700" data-attributes="member: 21175"><p>We continue to pay for his phone yep. The sad fact is that there just isn’t a way for things to operate without it. We suspended his account a couple times and I have shut down the wifi at times, but it doesn’t change things with him and it makes managing life in general nearly impossible. He doesn’t drive and I will be delaying that as long as possible because I don’t think he is anywhere even close to being mature enough to handle a motor vehicle. I give him a small amount of money. He gets $5 a day which is “lunch money.” I do that because I used to make him a lunch every day for school but i’d Find them on the floor of his room petrified. So, he gets the money instead. I don’t care what he uses it for. Honestly if I found out he was pocketing the money and saving it for something i’d See it as a positive sign that he has some sort of self control. However, that only continues as long as he’s adhering to a very few basic rules. And he’s started to push that envelope so I may soon be cutting off any such niceties.</p><p></p><p>Oh, and I have told him he is out at 18. I’m not sure he’ll be here that long even.</p><p></p><p>Like I said, the police have been involved. Things have devolved to violence between my son and myself. Last year he ended up with a pretty bad scrape on his hip (a result of me trying to physically haul his rude ass out of bed after about an hour of him telling me to <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> off and giving me the finger and making me late for work for the umpteenth time) and cfs did investigate me for “abuse.” That file was closed a couple weeks later as they found no evidence of such. The police arrive. They settle things down. They leave. My son remains with me and the cycle begins anew. </p><p></p><p>Therefore, I found the only way to operate was to set a certain level of provision - here’s what I’m prepared to provide with literally no expectation from you. But like I said there’s a line in the sand...a few fundamental things I need and if that is crossed then I stop providing those things. And a shitstorm will ensue but so be it...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CDN_DAD_in_tough, post: 733700, member: 21175"] We continue to pay for his phone yep. The sad fact is that there just isn’t a way for things to operate without it. We suspended his account a couple times and I have shut down the wifi at times, but it doesn’t change things with him and it makes managing life in general nearly impossible. He doesn’t drive and I will be delaying that as long as possible because I don’t think he is anywhere even close to being mature enough to handle a motor vehicle. I give him a small amount of money. He gets $5 a day which is “lunch money.” I do that because I used to make him a lunch every day for school but i’d Find them on the floor of his room petrified. So, he gets the money instead. I don’t care what he uses it for. Honestly if I found out he was pocketing the money and saving it for something i’d See it as a positive sign that he has some sort of self control. However, that only continues as long as he’s adhering to a very few basic rules. And he’s started to push that envelope so I may soon be cutting off any such niceties. Oh, and I have told him he is out at 18. I’m not sure he’ll be here that long even. Like I said, the police have been involved. Things have devolved to violence between my son and myself. Last year he ended up with a pretty bad scrape on his hip (a result of me trying to physically haul his rude ass out of bed after about an hour of him telling me to :censored2: off and giving me the finger and making me late for work for the umpteenth time) and cfs did investigate me for “abuse.” That file was closed a couple weeks later as they found no evidence of such. The police arrive. They settle things down. They leave. My son remains with me and the cycle begins anew. Therefore, I found the only way to operate was to set a certain level of provision - here’s what I’m prepared to provide with literally no expectation from you. But like I said there’s a line in the sand...a few fundamental things I need and if that is crossed then I stop providing those things. And a shitstorm will ensue but so be it... [/QUOTE]
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