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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 734340" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>When my son was 16 he began dating a girl I actually did like, but about one month into the relationship, they discovered she was 4 months pregnant. They actually lied to her mother, more by omission than outright I think, and let her believe the baby was my son's. I told them, originally, I would not tell her mom anything, but they had to. Anyway, after a fall-out over something he moved out and into her house, at which all bets were off and I wrote her mom a lovely long text, pointing out the timing. He eventually came back, of course.</p><p></p><p>A big source of conflict was simply that we had a rule - no person of the opposite sex spent the night in our house and he didn't spend the night at theirs. Period. Her mother even invited him and told me so. He told me he'd be sleeping on the couch...my response was that I didn't care if he were handcuffed to her father - he wasn't sleeping at the girlfriend's and she wasn't sleeping here!</p><p></p><p>We didn't "tell him how we felt" we told him how it would be. It was the house rule. Our house. Our rule. Period. It remained the rule as long as he was under our roof, even after the age of 21. One morning we woke up on Black Friday to find a (different) girlfriend in the house - her mom had dropped her off in the wee hours of the morning and she'd (presumably) gone down to the family room and slept on the couch. When the mother came to get her daughter we told HER the house rules.</p><p></p><p>Teenagers sleeping over at each other's houses was a sore spot not only with our kid but with the other kid's parents! I can't believe how blasé all these girls mother's were about their daughters clearly sleeping around! Or did they <em>actually</em> think they were in separate bedrooms? Really.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite12" alt="o_O" title="Er... what? o_O" loading="lazy" data-shortname="o_O" /> We were the uncool, unpopular parents.</p><p></p><p><strong>We did not care.</strong></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This, we found, was the worst part of parenting a "difficult" teen. You can't watch them every minute of the day. In fact, we're pretty sure ours would leave while we were asleep too. But for you CND_DAD I agree with everyone else. OUT at 18. Period. Even if you have to move to make that happen. Check your local laws and make sure you can have him removed or if you have to do something stupid like evict him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 734340, member: 17309"] When my son was 16 he began dating a girl I actually did like, but about one month into the relationship, they discovered she was 4 months pregnant. They actually lied to her mother, more by omission than outright I think, and let her believe the baby was my son's. I told them, originally, I would not tell her mom anything, but they had to. Anyway, after a fall-out over something he moved out and into her house, at which all bets were off and I wrote her mom a lovely long text, pointing out the timing. He eventually came back, of course. A big source of conflict was simply that we had a rule - no person of the opposite sex spent the night in our house and he didn't spend the night at theirs. Period. Her mother even invited him and told me so. He told me he'd be sleeping on the couch...my response was that I didn't care if he were handcuffed to her father - he wasn't sleeping at the girlfriend's and she wasn't sleeping here! We didn't "tell him how we felt" we told him how it would be. It was the house rule. Our house. Our rule. Period. It remained the rule as long as he was under our roof, even after the age of 21. One morning we woke up on Black Friday to find a (different) girlfriend in the house - her mom had dropped her off in the wee hours of the morning and she'd (presumably) gone down to the family room and slept on the couch. When the mother came to get her daughter we told HER the house rules. Teenagers sleeping over at each other's houses was a sore spot not only with our kid but with the other kid's parents! I can't believe how blasé all these girls mother's were about their daughters clearly sleeping around! Or did they [I]actually[/I] think they were in separate bedrooms? Really.o_O We were the uncool, unpopular parents. [B]We did not care.[/B] This, we found, was the worst part of parenting a "difficult" teen. You can't watch them every minute of the day. In fact, we're pretty sure ours would leave while we were asleep too. But for you CND_DAD I agree with everyone else. OUT at 18. Period. Even if you have to move to make that happen. Check your local laws and make sure you can have him removed or if you have to do something stupid like evict him. [/QUOTE]
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