After a week of silence I finally received another text message from my AWOL daughter. She says she loves me and wants to work on our relationship???
First, I'm assuming the text messaging is her way of keeping contact impersonal and to a minimum. But it's starting to get on my nerves. I'm glad to know she's alive, but I'm about to turn off the text messaging.
Second, why is this all of a sudden a relationship problem with me? I guess I should be happy to hear she wants to work on our relationship, but it concerns me that this is a part of this delusional life she's created for herself. I'd feel a bit better if she were wanting to work on finishing school, not hanging out with drug dealers, not trying to trick the lowest men she can find into getting her pregnant, and in general getting back to her life.
When her bio dad tried to kill us (the first time) and was forced into counseling. The psychiatrist chastised me for wanting to leave him and not "work things out." He blamed the attempted murder on relationship problems and obviously I had driven him to it. My husband and I tried counseling to deal with step-difficult child's issues which turned into "communication" counseling. Hmmmm, there never seems to be a problem with communication, the problem is husband adores his kids to the point of allowing them to run his and everyone else's life. And husband and his oldest have been in counseling off and on for years trying to "work on their relationship." I'm still waiting for the counselor to explain how working on their relationship will stop husband from giving them everything they want and stop step-difficult child from threatening to bash people's heads in with ball bats.
I'm all for counseling, but I don't believe just any counselor will do. And I'm not up for another round of relationship counseling. I'm willing to participate, and make whatever changes I need to make to get difficult child back on track, but I'm not willing to waste time, money, and energy blaming these dissociative episodes difficult child has on our relationship. Besides, when difficult child is not in these states, we have a wonderful time together. She asks to do things with me even after we've spent 1/2 the day together in homeschool.
I wish I could be more encouraged by her latst revelation.
First, I'm assuming the text messaging is her way of keeping contact impersonal and to a minimum. But it's starting to get on my nerves. I'm glad to know she's alive, but I'm about to turn off the text messaging.
Second, why is this all of a sudden a relationship problem with me? I guess I should be happy to hear she wants to work on our relationship, but it concerns me that this is a part of this delusional life she's created for herself. I'd feel a bit better if she were wanting to work on finishing school, not hanging out with drug dealers, not trying to trick the lowest men she can find into getting her pregnant, and in general getting back to her life.
When her bio dad tried to kill us (the first time) and was forced into counseling. The psychiatrist chastised me for wanting to leave him and not "work things out." He blamed the attempted murder on relationship problems and obviously I had driven him to it. My husband and I tried counseling to deal with step-difficult child's issues which turned into "communication" counseling. Hmmmm, there never seems to be a problem with communication, the problem is husband adores his kids to the point of allowing them to run his and everyone else's life. And husband and his oldest have been in counseling off and on for years trying to "work on their relationship." I'm still waiting for the counselor to explain how working on their relationship will stop husband from giving them everything they want and stop step-difficult child from threatening to bash people's heads in with ball bats.
I'm all for counseling, but I don't believe just any counselor will do. And I'm not up for another round of relationship counseling. I'm willing to participate, and make whatever changes I need to make to get difficult child back on track, but I'm not willing to waste time, money, and energy blaming these dissociative episodes difficult child has on our relationship. Besides, when difficult child is not in these states, we have a wonderful time together. She asks to do things with me even after we've spent 1/2 the day together in homeschool.
I wish I could be more encouraged by her latst revelation.
