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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 755142" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Busy,</p><p>I don’t know if I would call what you are feeling as <em>backsliding</em>. We are ordinary people in extraordinarily bizarre circumstances with our waywards. It is a healthy thing to recognize the need for a break in routine, to honor our feelings and the processing we go through. I think it is the hardest thing to experience, grieving the lifestyle and choices of our beloveds. Death has a finality, this, what we are dealing with our adult children, this is <em>ongoing</em>. It is grieving of a different sort as we go through the next challenge presented, the what if’s, the what may be’s. Especially with grands in the mix, now we are talking generational consequences.</p><p>That’s tough stuff.</p><p>There are times when I just have to curl up and have a darn good cry, the tears are cleansing and help to release the tension of living..... with <em>this. </em></p><p>You are reflecting on what could possibly happen with the chain of events before you. That is being prepared, just in case. Overthinking on that is not good, we just can’t write the end of the story. But I can see where thinking about what you are dealing with can be difficult.</p><p>Looking back and wondering what you could have done differently? I don’t know how many times I have been there. Lots. I still go there sometimes. I made mistakes. Can’t change the past. So I forgive myself. Again.</p><p>It is interesting to note that our daughters have children and are making mistakes of their own.</p><p>Mine is quick to point out my transgressions, but conveniently gets belligerent and defiant if called on her own.</p><p>Huh.</p><p>I envision this journey I am on with my two and my grands as a long hike up a mountain. Some days I can trudge up the steep parts, other days, I need to take an easier trail, some days I have to rest on the side of the path and catch my breath. Look back at where I have come from.</p><p>That’s where I feel you are at, not backsliding, just catching your breath after a series of rough terrains and unpredictable future outcomes. That’s a tough hike for anyone, Busy.</p><p>Try not to write the end of the story. I think that’s where our minds trip us up. Give yourself a break. We are only human and are dealing with some heart wrenching realities.</p><p>Sending hugs, love and support.</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 755142, member: 19522"] Hi Busy, I don’t know if I would call what you are feeling as [I]backsliding[/I]. We are ordinary people in extraordinarily bizarre circumstances with our waywards. It is a healthy thing to recognize the need for a break in routine, to honor our feelings and the processing we go through. I think it is the hardest thing to experience, grieving the lifestyle and choices of our beloveds. Death has a finality, this, what we are dealing with our adult children, this is [I]ongoing[/I]. It is grieving of a different sort as we go through the next challenge presented, the what if’s, the what may be’s. Especially with grands in the mix, now we are talking generational consequences. That’s tough stuff. There are times when I just have to curl up and have a darn good cry, the tears are cleansing and help to release the tension of living..... with [I]this. [/I] You are reflecting on what could possibly happen with the chain of events before you. That is being prepared, just in case. Overthinking on that is not good, we just can’t write the end of the story. But I can see where thinking about what you are dealing with can be difficult. Looking back and wondering what you could have done differently? I don’t know how many times I have been there. Lots. I still go there sometimes. I made mistakes. Can’t change the past. So I forgive myself. Again. It is interesting to note that our daughters have children and are making mistakes of their own. Mine is quick to point out my transgressions, but conveniently gets belligerent and defiant if called on her own. Huh. I envision this journey I am on with my two and my grands as a long hike up a mountain. Some days I can trudge up the steep parts, other days, I need to take an easier trail, some days I have to rest on the side of the path and catch my breath. Look back at where I have come from. That’s where I feel you are at, not backsliding, just catching your breath after a series of rough terrains and unpredictable future outcomes. That’s a tough hike for anyone, Busy. Try not to write the end of the story. I think that’s where our minds trip us up. Give yourself a break. We are only human and are dealing with some heart wrenching realities. Sending hugs, love and support. Leafy [/QUOTE]
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