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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 755201" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>I hope you are feeling better today, Busy.</p><p></p><p>This is such hard stuff. I think the bottom line is that whether Kay is in active addiction or not, she is in no position emotionally or financially to nurture a child. Jaden must depend on the rest of the family to make sure his needs are met.</p><p></p><p>I too don't really see the back-and-forth emotional swings as backsliding. These are our kids, and we can't "turn off" our feelings like we turn off the stove. For me at least, it's more like my feelings are on the back burner on a slow simmer, and most days I can live with that. It doesn't take much to get them started again though...a movie that shows a mother and son sharing a tender moment, a birthday, a memory sparked as I drive by a certain spot...and soon I am in full-blown FOG, plus a little grief thrown in...wondering what I could have done differently, whether I will ever see Son again...whether I even *WANT* to because I remember what happens when I do -- everything on the front burner at a furious boil and me trying to prevent the fire.</p><p></p><p>I wish things were different between us, but sadly they are not, at least not now.</p><p></p><p>Maybe you are going through something similar as Amy investigates custody issues. That's bound to rekindle a lot of feelings. As Kay's mother, you have much empathy for her position and feel what you expect Kay would feel in this situation...but perhaps Kay doesn't feel those things at all, or sees and feels them very differently?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 755201, member: 17720"] I hope you are feeling better today, Busy. This is such hard stuff. I think the bottom line is that whether Kay is in active addiction or not, she is in no position emotionally or financially to nurture a child. Jaden must depend on the rest of the family to make sure his needs are met. I too don't really see the back-and-forth emotional swings as backsliding. These are our kids, and we can't "turn off" our feelings like we turn off the stove. For me at least, it's more like my feelings are on the back burner on a slow simmer, and most days I can live with that. It doesn't take much to get them started again though...a movie that shows a mother and son sharing a tender moment, a birthday, a memory sparked as I drive by a certain spot...and soon I am in full-blown FOG, plus a little grief thrown in...wondering what I could have done differently, whether I will ever see Son again...whether I even *WANT* to because I remember what happens when I do -- everything on the front burner at a furious boil and me trying to prevent the fire. I wish things were different between us, but sadly they are not, at least not now. Maybe you are going through something similar as Amy investigates custody issues. That's bound to rekindle a lot of feelings. As Kay's mother, you have much empathy for her position and feel what you expect Kay would feel in this situation...but perhaps Kay doesn't feel those things at all, or sees and feels them very differently? [/QUOTE]
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