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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 755645" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear okie girl:There is no point for me to write more because Blindsided and Seeking have said it all.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This is when it will end. When we put into place whatever is necessary in ourselves and our lives to insulate ourselves from the chaos, irresponsibility and mean-spiritedness of our children. And when we accept that whatever the pain, there is a right and wrong thing to do. And in the case of our able-bodied and able-minded middle-aged or near middle-aged adult children, the right thing to do is to let them solve their own problems and live their own life lessons. We have to cut the umbilical cord.</p><p></p><p> I have tried every single thing, many times over. My trying does not one thing to help or to change the situation. The smartest thing I have ever done is to cut off paying for anything. No food. No help. No nothing. The last tie is his cell phone which is on my plan. Within days, I will remove it. He won't even be bothered to answer if I call. Why would I pay?</p><p></p><p>They will figure it out. This is what will help them learn and to have the motivation to change, if they choose. </p><p></p><p>It has taken me years and years to arrive at this point. I can't say I don't worry or that it doesn't hurt. I worry. It hurts. And I am heartsick, at times. But I know this is the right thing. Finally.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 755645, member: 18958"] Dear okie girl:There is no point for me to write more because Blindsided and Seeking have said it all. This is when it will end. When we put into place whatever is necessary in ourselves and our lives to insulate ourselves from the chaos, irresponsibility and mean-spiritedness of our children. And when we accept that whatever the pain, there is a right and wrong thing to do. And in the case of our able-bodied and able-minded middle-aged or near middle-aged adult children, the right thing to do is to let them solve their own problems and live their own life lessons. We have to cut the umbilical cord. I have tried every single thing, many times over. My trying does not one thing to help or to change the situation. The smartest thing I have ever done is to cut off paying for anything. No food. No help. No nothing. The last tie is his cell phone which is on my plan. Within days, I will remove it. He won't even be bothered to answer if I call. Why would I pay? They will figure it out. This is what will help them learn and to have the motivation to change, if they choose. It has taken me years and years to arrive at this point. I can't say I don't worry or that it doesn't hurt. I worry. It hurts. And I am heartsick, at times. But I know this is the right thing. Finally. [/QUOTE]
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