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<blockquote data-quote="ChickPea" data-source="post: 751107" data-attributes="member: 24089"><p>Literally the words you typed are what I've said/explained to him. I don't think he's thought that through, honestly. I think he's just in a dip of emotions, working through them like we all do. He reads here every now and then when I send him a link. He's been amazed reading about other CD kids and saying that ours is "just like that" or "jease we could have written that" - so he's not 100% blind to what's going on. But he's also not to the point of posting on the forum, eh.</p><p></p><p>Like you said, I understand his position. Maybe it's coming from a point of grieving. I think I'm past that point a bit with the grandchild and responsible single mom stuff, whereas maybe he's stuck there right now, thinking it could happen soon.</p><p></p><p>Today as I sat outside, staring at the tree leaves, I pondered on surrendering and just let things fall (my husband's way). What if I just left for a couple months and she had baby, and chips fell where they were? I could do that. Legally, physically... I could. But I just couldn't live with myself and the consequences of that surrender. If she rips him away - then it happens, and it's out of my control... but she hasn't. So if I just surrender (the baby to her), then I feel like it's on me, and the consequences of that are part my doing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ChickPea, post: 751107, member: 24089"] Literally the words you typed are what I've said/explained to him. I don't think he's thought that through, honestly. I think he's just in a dip of emotions, working through them like we all do. He reads here every now and then when I send him a link. He's been amazed reading about other CD kids and saying that ours is "just like that" or "jease we could have written that" - so he's not 100% blind to what's going on. But he's also not to the point of posting on the forum, eh. Like you said, I understand his position. Maybe it's coming from a point of grieving. I think I'm past that point a bit with the grandchild and responsible single mom stuff, whereas maybe he's stuck there right now, thinking it could happen soon. Today as I sat outside, staring at the tree leaves, I pondered on surrendering and just let things fall (my husband's way). What if I just left for a couple months and she had baby, and chips fell where they were? I could do that. Legally, physically... I could. But I just couldn't live with myself and the consequences of that surrender. If she rips him away - then it happens, and it's out of my control... but she hasn't. So if I just surrender (the baby to her), then I feel like it's on me, and the consequences of that are part my doing. [/QUOTE]
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