Kjs,
You need to get on the phone and start banging on doors until you find an advocate to help you. Your SD is feeding you, in my humble opinion, half truths. While I agree you probably don't have to sign IEP for it go into effect, you absolutely *do* have to agree with- it. Additionally, if you disagree with- a change in placement, they cannot make the change without going to mediation/due process. on the other hand, if you disagree with- current placement, then you are going to have to file mediation/due process.
From where I'm sitting, you've been slammed with- many of the complexities of sped law, a kiddo who is struggling, *and* an SD who is not, by your description, conducting themselves in a reasonable manner. You have a lot to digest, learn, and organize, and you need help.
I'm going to post some links below, but *also* the SD is required by federal law to give you resources as well. So, first thing I'd do is send a short, sweet letter requesting contact information for protection and advocacy agencies in your area. Certified mail. Don't get into details - just:
Dear Sped Director:
I would appreciate it if you could forward a list of available local advocacy resources to assist me in understanding the provisions of IDEA.
I look forward to receiving it in XX days (I'd give 10, but I'm a pain). Thank you for your assistance.
Sincerely,
KJS
Links:
http://www.disabilityrightswi.org/index.php
http://www.specialed.us/pl-07/pl07-resources.html (several links here)
Since school is almost out, and this is just my opinion, I'd take a breather to get a copy of the IEP, the evaluations, and an advocate together. Sit down and come up with- a game plan - what needs to be in IEP, whether or not you agree with- testing results and recommendations, whether or not you need to request further testing or an IEE. Get confident in your knowledge of applicable state/federal law (print copies of both state and federal law, get them in binders, and personally, I found it highly effective to prominently label the binders - seriously, there was a remarkable change in SD attitude when I walked in with my binders that had numerous labeled post-its to give me fast access to certain sections of the law :wink: ) and then in July or August, request an IEP meeting to lay out your concerns (assuming you will still have concerns once you get all the info together).
This is a marathon. While I know you want to get things fixed *now*, in my experience when you're frazzled and stressed and trying to get all this information straight in your head, it's incredibly hard to be an effective advocate.
Hang in there - you are going to be an *expert* in sped law before you know it.