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Why can’t I be honest?
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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 756727" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>I'm sorry for all your heartache. When I read your post what resonates with me is what they teach us in Al anon.</p><p></p><p>You didn't <strong>cause</strong> it, you can't <strong>control</strong> it and you can'5 <strong>cure</strong> it (the 3 C's). We learn that we can apply a lot of what we learn there to other areas of our lives. Your post screams this to me.</p><p></p><p>I know all too well how you feel. You want to prevent any further crisis, you want to rescue your son from the consequences of his actions. I get it 100%, like I said because I'm a work in progress with this too.</p><p></p><p>Try to know that you cannot prevent your son from any anger he may feel because of what will happen when he gets out and how he will react. Truth-be-told if he is an angry person (like my sons), a multitude of other "injustices" done to him could trigger bad behavior at any given time. You can't shield him from his own bad behaviors and the results of the consequences he must endure for these lifetime choices he's made. Trust me, that is just too exhausting. Take off your "red superwoman cape" and hang it in the closet! </p><p></p><p>It's when "we" think we have all the answers and can buffer all of life's curve-balls that gets us in a pinned in a corner. YOU are not responsible to soften all the blows.</p><p></p><p>Be gentle and compassionate in your own thoughts for yourself. We beat ourselves up mentally a lot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 756727, member: 23405"] I'm sorry for all your heartache. When I read your post what resonates with me is what they teach us in Al anon. You didn't [B]cause[/B] it, you can't [B]control[/B] it and you can'5 [B]cure[/B] it (the 3 C's). We learn that we can apply a lot of what we learn there to other areas of our lives. Your post screams this to me. I know all too well how you feel. You want to prevent any further crisis, you want to rescue your son from the consequences of his actions. I get it 100%, like I said because I'm a work in progress with this too. Try to know that you cannot prevent your son from any anger he may feel because of what will happen when he gets out and how he will react. Truth-be-told if he is an angry person (like my sons), a multitude of other "injustices" done to him could trigger bad behavior at any given time. You can't shield him from his own bad behaviors and the results of the consequences he must endure for these lifetime choices he's made. Trust me, that is just too exhausting. Take off your "red superwoman cape" and hang it in the closet! It's when "we" think we have all the answers and can buffer all of life's curve-balls that gets us in a pinned in a corner. YOU are not responsible to soften all the blows. Be gentle and compassionate in your own thoughts for yourself. We beat ourselves up mentally a lot. [/QUOTE]
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