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Why can’t I be honest?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 756737" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi Helpless. I'm sorry you're going through this, and that it keeps going on and on.</p><p></p><p>This is how I see it: Nobody knows what's going on now, from day to day or even hour to hour. We can't know for sure what any one outcome will be, even if we think we should be able to control it. With respect to your son and his situation you have no control. You can't take him in. That's been clear from the get go. But the thing is, nobody knows anything for sure anymore. Therefore, I don't see any reason to come down hard on your son about any reality in the future that may or may not exist. That's the kind of times we're living in.</p><p></p><p>Your son needs to begin the process of owning his minute to minute behavior and its consequences. There are no solutions for him anymore "out there." By his behavior he has pretty much eliminated those, at least with family. I agree with you. I don't see any good reason for you to tell him any hard truths. These are not yours to tell. They are his to come to. And like you I would be concerned about how he would handle them under the current circumstances. </p><p></p><p>I think you're in the same boat as many of the rest of us. Which is, we really don't have even the illusion of control and options in our worlds except for the immediate choices we make in our psyches and homes, about each minute and hour that unfolds. There is no more than that for most of us, right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 756737, member: 18958"] Hi Helpless. I'm sorry you're going through this, and that it keeps going on and on. This is how I see it: Nobody knows what's going on now, from day to day or even hour to hour. We can't know for sure what any one outcome will be, even if we think we should be able to control it. With respect to your son and his situation you have no control. You can't take him in. That's been clear from the get go. But the thing is, nobody knows anything for sure anymore. Therefore, I don't see any reason to come down hard on your son about any reality in the future that may or may not exist. That's the kind of times we're living in. Your son needs to begin the process of owning his minute to minute behavior and its consequences. There are no solutions for him anymore "out there." By his behavior he has pretty much eliminated those, at least with family. I agree with you. I don't see any good reason for you to tell him any hard truths. These are not yours to tell. They are his to come to. And like you I would be concerned about how he would handle them under the current circumstances. I think you're in the same boat as many of the rest of us. Which is, we really don't have even the illusion of control and options in our worlds except for the immediate choices we make in our psyches and homes, about each minute and hour that unfolds. There is no more than that for most of us, right now. [/QUOTE]
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