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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 749591" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Personally, I would not do this under the circumstances.</p><p></p><p>I think being homeless gives a certain freedom of movement and freedom from rules.</p><p></p><p>I am having a hard time figuring out what to say here. (That is rare.) Because it seems like you and your daughter are in kind of a liminal state which means between one thing and another thing but not really in anything.</p><p></p><p>She is certainly not living at home, to my way of thinking. She is using your home occasionally as a crash pad.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like they do not have the money to get their own apartment, but consider themselves to be emancipated. So what she is trying to do is live an emancipated life, while depending upon you to provide part-time housing.</p><p></p><p>To me this would not work. I would want to talk to her and to find out her intentions. Have it all be out there. And find out what are her plans.</p><p></p><p>I would tell her how you feel. That you are uncomfortable with the current arrangement, her sleeping at home occasionally with the boy outside in the car, and them living as they do, which is really nowhere.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like with the boy having fulltime work now there may soon be enough money for them to get a room or apartment of their own. If she were to tell you that their plan is to get a place within the next 30 days, would that be enough for you to put up with this arrangement until then?</p><p></p><p>If you do allow this to continue I would give her a date by which it has to change. Either she moves back home full-time (with the boy somewhere else) or she needs to make another arrangement.</p><p></p><p>I would feel like you do. I would feel extremely uncomfortable with this and I would not want it to be happening. I think you are being put in a very difficult situation. By letting her crash when she wants, however she wants, *with the boy outside, you are being put in a situation to as if condone circumstances, but with no real say, without a voice. Because if you allow it with your full knowledge, this is to give consent. (When you don't.) As a parent I would have a very hard time with this.</p><p></p><p>I will say what I think: I think it's disrespectful, really. But I am old school.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you posted. Other people will be around soon and may have a whole different take on your situation.</p><p></p><p>Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 749591, member: 18958"] Personally, I would not do this under the circumstances. I think being homeless gives a certain freedom of movement and freedom from rules. I am having a hard time figuring out what to say here. (That is rare.) Because it seems like you and your daughter are in kind of a liminal state which means between one thing and another thing but not really in anything. She is certainly not living at home, to my way of thinking. She is using your home occasionally as a crash pad. It sounds like they do not have the money to get their own apartment, but consider themselves to be emancipated. So what she is trying to do is live an emancipated life, while depending upon you to provide part-time housing. To me this would not work. I would want to talk to her and to find out her intentions. Have it all be out there. And find out what are her plans. I would tell her how you feel. That you are uncomfortable with the current arrangement, her sleeping at home occasionally with the boy outside in the car, and them living as they do, which is really nowhere. It sounds like with the boy having fulltime work now there may soon be enough money for them to get a room or apartment of their own. If she were to tell you that their plan is to get a place within the next 30 days, would that be enough for you to put up with this arrangement until then? If you do allow this to continue I would give her a date by which it has to change. Either she moves back home full-time (with the boy somewhere else) or she needs to make another arrangement. I would feel like you do. I would feel extremely uncomfortable with this and I would not want it to be happening. I think you are being put in a very difficult situation. By letting her crash when she wants, however she wants, *with the boy outside, you are being put in a situation to as if condone circumstances, but with no real say, without a voice. Because if you allow it with your full knowledge, this is to give consent. (When you don't.) As a parent I would have a very hard time with this. I will say what I think: I think it's disrespectful, really. But I am old school. I am glad you posted. Other people will be around soon and may have a whole different take on your situation. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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