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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 749621" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>If you are okay with being out the money and your daughter not completing college, then by all means, sign away. Personally, I would not sign any type of loan paperwork for anyone. I understand there are many parents who willingly take on the financial responsibility for their child's college education but I'm guessing that most of these kids will actually graduate. The way your daughter is living right now does exude being responsible. My son did a few months of college. I thought things were going well. He flat out lied to me about it and didn't tell me that he had quit. I never signed any loan paperwork, he managed to get some one his own, but, and here's where I did something stupid, I paid off his loan. It took me a couple years but I did it because I didn't want him to have a bad mark on his credit. If I could go back, I would not have done that. </p><p></p><p>One plus that you have is your daughter is only 19. She is still young and hopefully can turn her life around. </p><p>I agree with the others that you need to sit her down and set up some clear and firm boundaries. The sooner the better.</p><p>Knowing what I know now, if I were in your shoes, I would tell her that the way things have been going is unacceptable and things need to change or she needs to go. </p><p>Here's the thing, she is 19, an adult, however, if she wants to continue living under your roof then she needs to abide by your rules. If she throws out the "I'm an adult, I can do what I want" line, I would reply, "yes, you are an adult but so am I. I pay all the bills related to this home therefore I make the rules for what happens in this home. If you do not feel you can abide by my rules then you are free to leave. No one is forcing you to stay here but know this, if you choose to leave, there will be no financial assistance. If you choose to stay you will be expected to to participate in being in this family, ie; eating meals together, helping with household chores, being respectful of house rules, etc.....</p><p></p><p>As for the "why" our kids do the things they do, I've given up trying to put rhyme or reason to it.</p><p></p><p>I feel for what you are going through. I'm glad you found us here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 749621, member: 18516"] If you are okay with being out the money and your daughter not completing college, then by all means, sign away. Personally, I would not sign any type of loan paperwork for anyone. I understand there are many parents who willingly take on the financial responsibility for their child's college education but I'm guessing that most of these kids will actually graduate. The way your daughter is living right now does exude being responsible. My son did a few months of college. I thought things were going well. He flat out lied to me about it and didn't tell me that he had quit. I never signed any loan paperwork, he managed to get some one his own, but, and here's where I did something stupid, I paid off his loan. It took me a couple years but I did it because I didn't want him to have a bad mark on his credit. If I could go back, I would not have done that. One plus that you have is your daughter is only 19. She is still young and hopefully can turn her life around. I agree with the others that you need to sit her down and set up some clear and firm boundaries. The sooner the better. Knowing what I know now, if I were in your shoes, I would tell her that the way things have been going is unacceptable and things need to change or she needs to go. Here's the thing, she is 19, an adult, however, if she wants to continue living under your roof then she needs to abide by your rules. If she throws out the "I'm an adult, I can do what I want" line, I would reply, "yes, you are an adult but so am I. I pay all the bills related to this home therefore I make the rules for what happens in this home. If you do not feel you can abide by my rules then you are free to leave. No one is forcing you to stay here but know this, if you choose to leave, there will be no financial assistance. If you choose to stay you will be expected to to participate in being in this family, ie; eating meals together, helping with household chores, being respectful of house rules, etc..... As for the "why" our kids do the things they do, I've given up trying to put rhyme or reason to it. I feel for what you are going through. I'm glad you found us here. [/QUOTE]
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