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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 747099" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>I think that he doesn't want to be in a strict environment which is probably how it will be if he is with his dad - based on what you said. I think that it's probably the best thing for him and it is exactly what he needs. He needs major accountability and that is a lot of work for a parent. </p><p></p><p>He is at an age where you as parents still have some control over him. He may fight it but if he does, then he will suffer the consequences which is exactly what the natural course of events should be.</p><p></p><p>I just had a conversation with my 23 year old son that just moved home in November after being in many, many rehabs etc. and a 13 month faith based program. He is drinking beer again which is okay if in moderation. He does not like to drink in front of us because he thinks we're judging (me mainly) so had in his room but we are NOT okay with that and I just had to explain to him WHY we aren't okay. He was 15 when his tirade started. We're still in it to some degree since he is home again. Here we are SEVEN YEARS later. Thank God I couldn't see into the future or I would have totally freaked out that I had "that" ahead of me.</p><p></p><p>You aren't doing "this" to punish him. You have to continue to control and guide. The outcome may be the same no matter what you do - as it was for us. It was hell.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 747099, member: 15032"] I think that he doesn't want to be in a strict environment which is probably how it will be if he is with his dad - based on what you said. I think that it's probably the best thing for him and it is exactly what he needs. He needs major accountability and that is a lot of work for a parent. He is at an age where you as parents still have some control over him. He may fight it but if he does, then he will suffer the consequences which is exactly what the natural course of events should be. I just had a conversation with my 23 year old son that just moved home in November after being in many, many rehabs etc. and a 13 month faith based program. He is drinking beer again which is okay if in moderation. He does not like to drink in front of us because he thinks we're judging (me mainly) so had in his room but we are NOT okay with that and I just had to explain to him WHY we aren't okay. He was 15 when his tirade started. We're still in it to some degree since he is home again. Here we are SEVEN YEARS later. Thank God I couldn't see into the future or I would have totally freaked out that I had "that" ahead of me. You aren't doing "this" to punish him. You have to continue to control and guide. The outcome may be the same no matter what you do - as it was for us. It was hell. [/QUOTE]
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