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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 455556" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Sending caring thoughts and many hugs your way. Unlike difficult child#1 your #2 has never been project driven or self motivating. I know it drives your husband crazy since it is second nature for him to work as hard as he can all the time. We live with a similar (but not so volatile) situation. As you know easy child/difficult child is an alcoholic but the thing that causes husband (very quiet and calm by nature) <strong>nuts</strong> is that since the brain injury it is like pulling hens teeth to get easy child/difficult child "on task". As the psychiatrist says "he has more than a little difficulty in following through as a result of his brain trauma"...duh!</p><p></p><p>Today he is working at the store helping husband. He will do a satisfactory job...although he doesn't like the lifting, stocking dirty work of the business. on the other hand he's promised to clean his room for a week and does start...then quits. The wires just don't connect as they should for him and I don't think your #2 is correctly wired either. Thankfully we don't deal with any violence but, like you, life is based on impulsive choices that are usually self pleasuring. Sigh!</p><p></p><p>I wish I had positive advice to pass on, my friend, but I just don't. Before it is even posted I am sure most will suggest you kick him out, let him hit bottom and pull himself up. His vulnerabilities make that hard to consider. Lately have you pushed for mh consistent appts? Anger management classes? Rehab? Same old concepts but "sometimes" when circumstances change you can get some baby steps going. I'll be thinking of you all and hoping for the best. Hugs DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 455556, member: 35"] Sending caring thoughts and many hugs your way. Unlike difficult child#1 your #2 has never been project driven or self motivating. I know it drives your husband crazy since it is second nature for him to work as hard as he can all the time. We live with a similar (but not so volatile) situation. As you know easy child/difficult child is an alcoholic but the thing that causes husband (very quiet and calm by nature) [B]nuts[/B] is that since the brain injury it is like pulling hens teeth to get easy child/difficult child "on task". As the psychiatrist says "he has more than a little difficulty in following through as a result of his brain trauma"...duh! Today he is working at the store helping husband. He will do a satisfactory job...although he doesn't like the lifting, stocking dirty work of the business. on the other hand he's promised to clean his room for a week and does start...then quits. The wires just don't connect as they should for him and I don't think your #2 is correctly wired either. Thankfully we don't deal with any violence but, like you, life is based on impulsive choices that are usually self pleasuring. Sigh! I wish I had positive advice to pass on, my friend, but I just don't. Before it is even posted I am sure most will suggest you kick him out, let him hit bottom and pull himself up. His vulnerabilities make that hard to consider. Lately have you pushed for mh consistent appts? Anger management classes? Rehab? Same old concepts but "sometimes" when circumstances change you can get some baby steps going. I'll be thinking of you all and hoping for the best. Hugs DDD [/QUOTE]
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