parents of drug users

Hi, all: Mom of 17yo daughter (turns 18 in early Sept). Laundry list of issues include: - childhood sexual abuse by babysitter's husband (before age 6; therapy) - poor choice of friends (drug-dealing 21yo boyfriend; yay!) - rejection by bio father at age 14 (he left when she was 3 mos. old; my...

Hello everyone! I came across this site when I was googling information about ODD. My 13 year old daughter was diagnosed with ODD in March of last year and has since gotten into some legal trouble by getting into a physical fight with another 13 year old girl. We went to court today and my...

I am truly at a loss and I don't know where to turn for help. My husband and I have 5 kids, ages, 21,18,13,10, and 7. They all live at home, at the moment. Our 21 year old has been in and out of the home several times. When he is here, are home is in utter turmoil, most of the time. Tonight took...

First let me say that I am so sorry to those of you who have been so supportive and concerened for me and my family, for disappearing for so long. I don't really have a reason other than I couldn't bear to talk about what has been happening. Thank you so very much for all of your thoughts and...

JT, our oldest difficult child, is 18 and heading off to his first year of college next month. He is very bright and mechanically inclined, and he has chosen a good field. He will be living on campus in the dorms. Currently, he has a summer construction job and lives with us. The issue we're having is...

difficult child seems to be falling further away from us. I am not sure where to turn. She has a p'doctor appointment on the 6th, and therapist on the 12th. She does ok, but then falls asleep on the couch, and then can't/won't get up to do H.W. or shower. How do I convince people that she needs help, and that we are...

I have a 21 yo daughter and 15 yo daughter from my first marriage, and have a 3 yo and 4mo from my second. My oldest is the problem. During her teenage years she unbeknownst to me, had a cocaine addiction. I say unbeknownst and admit that I was kind of a absentee parent during those year dealing...

B had her first neuropsychologist evaluation done almost three weeks ago. Finally, we will get the results on Monday. She was not tested for learning disabilities because we do not suspect any other than ADD...and insurance would not cover them. The test consisted of IQ testing, personality testing and...

I finally may have gotten the ball rolling to get Al some real help. Because of her drug use they keep referring us back to the drug counselling and services never really looking at the fact that this is just the latest incarnation of what is going on with her. There is a program (the only one...

Hi all. I am new to this but need guidance and support in the worst way. My 16 year old (17 in October) is increasingly out-of-control and defiant. She was always a strong-willed child and suffered some depression in her early teen years, but now she is thinks she knows it all and can do...

What I have written below is just a huge rant that I will just send as is, because if I try to edit it...I will just end up giving up so I apologise for the drama...but I am desperate like I have never been...and am open to any ideas at all. THANKS! I will not give a ton of history...but just...

Hello, 8 tears ago my brother and sister in law got into trouble with the law. I stepped in with my husband and help their three kids that was taken into foster care. My husband and I took over their foster care and thought it would only be for 6 months. What could be worse than losing your...

My sister got her daughter, C, into rehab again today. I think this is her 4th time. This is the email she sent me: Spent the day getting C. ready and into rehab. I think everything will go well and she really wants to get better. It's hard. My first thought was, why did she spend the day...

I tried to get His Lordship up at 8.00am as arranged. No go! I stormed off, and said, it's easy to say 'sorry' but your attitude doesn't change. I took the german student to school and left cherub at home with daughter. she had a temperature and bad cough. He surfaced around 8.45am.... when he felt...

I don't know what to do anymore, everything was happy and normal during the early years. Now I only see him when he comes home to shower or sleep. It started around the beginning of middle school when he started dressing like punk, more so then the tight pants and old band shirts he would wear...

My 16 year old high school junior son (turning 17 soon) is getting very violent, not going to school, doing drugs and pretty much doesn't care about anything. He was a very sweet boy, very athletic and highly liked. But he has been changing since he entered high school. Never did homeworks, lot...

I have received so much support over the last couple years through this site! There have been so many days that I could not stop crying and was at my wits end. Now I am hoping that my situation can provide hope to someone else who is struggling. My son is about to celebrate his 15th birthday...

I'm new here and have been lurking a bit today. I know we all have our issues and I empathize with everyone because I know this can be a devastatingly lonely road. It seems there is never light at the end of the tunnel. Our issues stem not only from behavioral issues, but abuse and trauma...

Direct quote from the OH SO HELPFUL police department in our city here in wonderful Indiana.... "Well, its illegal to POSESS marijuana...but it isn't illegal to have it in your SYSTEM!!" When I called the police department yesterday, I explained to them that while I had found the drug...

I'm at my wits end. My daughter is 14, she's had behaviour problems since she was small but they've gotten so severe and she's recently become violent to her older sister, threatening her life and threatening suicide. The screaming fits and temper have become a daily occurence, with our two...