A Situation UPDATE

[Hound dog]

Last month Nichole stopped the depo bc shot and started the nuva ring. (sp?) She had to stop the shot due to excessive weight gain and it was making her retain water terribly. Well, about 4 days ago it was time to remove the ring so she could have her period. She's been waiting every since.

So when I picked up Travis from work on Mon morning I picked up a preg test. It was neg. This morning she called the doctor for a blood test and we ran her in for it. We won't have the results until at least tomorrow.

I told Nichole back when she was obsessing about wanting another baby that if she got pregnant again she was out. Once is a mistake, the second time around you just plain know better.

I still feel this way. BUT I'm not keen on making her feel like she HAS to move in with b/f. That just doesn't sit well with me at all. Yet we simply don't have room for another baby here. She and Aubrey are crammed into her bedroom now.

In addition, I just don't think I can do another 9 mos of her without medication. :surprise: God help us!

So far b/f is supposed to be taking the possibility ok. But I have a feeling all heck is going to break loose if she is preg again. And with as awful as he reacted last time, I think this time is going to be much worse. Because of the baby obsession during her last manic phase he's going to believe it was deliberate.

So if you could say a prayer that this girl is NOT pregnant I'd be grateful. A baby is the LAST thing she needs right now.

 

[Kathy813]

Oh my gosh, Lisa. That's the last thing you need. I'm praying like crazy that it is just a scare.

~Kathy

 

[DammitJanet]

Oh lord no!

 

[Fran]

Sending good thoughts since I don't have any words of wisdom.

 

[mom_to_3]

I'll send good vibes that the test result is negative. If it is negative, I'd march Nichole immediately to her Dr. and get her an I.U.D. They have a 5 yr. and a 10yr. I.U.D. I know this because I escorted my difficult child to get one. Sadly, I could only talk her into the 5yr. one. From what I understand, the over the counter tests are pretty reliable. Let's hope so anyway.

 

[witzend]

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Daisylover</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Last month Nichole stopped the depo bc shot and started the nuva ring. (sp?)
I told Nichole back when she was obsessing about wanting another baby that if she got pregnant again she was out. Once is a mistake, the second time around you just plain know better.

I still feel this way. BUT I'm not keen on making her feel like she HAS to move in with b/f. </div></div>

I don't know Daisy, it seems to me that she knows what she is doing, and if she gets pregnant, maybe it's her way of forcing your hand so she HAS to move in with b/f, if that makes any sense.

 

[Hound dog]

Yes, this being a way to "force" me to make her move out has occured to me. And I know it is possible that during the manic phase she removed the nuva ring without b/f knowing in order to get pregnant.....

I'm hoping the latter is not true, especially. :frown: The relationship with b/f hasn't improved any.

As for an IUD, we may discuss it. They make me nervous, though. When my mother was my age hers perferated her uterine wall and she had all sorts of ugly complications. We can at least see how they've been improved over the years.

I'm so praying this is just hormone screw up due to the birth control. :crazy:

 

[witzend]

You could always try to get her to take Depo shots. They last three months and you can't "forget" them so long as you go get the shot.

 

[wakeupcall]

Oh, Puhleeeeese..........! Just what none of you need! *Sigh* what do these children think....or do they?

 

[Suz]

I'm sorry, Lisa. I hope it's a false alarm.

:hammer: :smile: :hammer:

Suz

 

[Sunlight]

God be in charge, here and work things out for the best, please.

 

[Hound dog]

It was a false alarm!!!!! :whew: :smile:

THANK GOD! :bow:

I think it's a good sign that Nichole was just as relieved. She received the neg report from the doctor for the blood test, and started her period this morning.

:dance:

 

[Suz]

:thumb: :whew: :dance: :bow: :faint:

Suz

 

[Kathy813]

Thank goodness! I know that you are relieved.

~Kathy

 

[SunnyFlorida]

:bravo: Thank goodness.

That was a scare as I was scrolling down.

 

[gottaloveem]

Phew
:bravo:

 

[Ally]

How long was she on the depo shots for?? I only had 3 of them and it took me 9 months after my last one to get pregnant.

 

[Hound dog]

She was on the shot for 14 months.

I was hoping it was the shot causing the delay. Seems like it might have been.

 

[KFld]

OMG!!!! What a relief. O.k. we can all breath again.

 

[Star*]

No New Baby, NO new Baby.

She is going to do what she wants to do, but I would insist on the birthcontrol that is implanted in her arm and good for 5 years.

I gained tremendous weight on the Depo after son was born - he was a pill baby. And this ring thing. All I can (sorry) think about is that movie THE RING. eek.

Maybe you find boyfriend, lay out a budget of how much he needs to be thinking about earning and how long HE is going to have to work to earn that money if she gets pregnant to support himself, his child and his woman. Do it without letting on that she is NOT pregnant, but with the idea in mind that if she were????

Hugs and prayers for no new baby.

Star