hi guys! i slept till very late today i sooo needed it. so did difficult child! i could of slept all day to be honest. i just wanted to take a moment to say how great i think all of you are. how all these thoughts, insight kind words, ideas and all really are incredible and how it shows that this is def. the best online support group going and how newcomer's will see just how amazing all of you are and the influx of new and desperate confused parents will as always grow!
my "hallmark" moment for today.............
as far as my little difficult child. she's weighing in at 104 and is 5'3" now. that's our current weight update. she's well hydrated, still is not eating. i am taking focus off of food for now. getting nowhere and as many of my friends here and my gut tell me the more focus on place the more she'll either use it as negative attention or just get more turned off to food and more convinced hey i'm def. giong to choke and die if i eat this.
my gut tells me dont' push panic buttons yet, that will only make me like my ex h! ewww really not a a fan of him lately, i gotta be the sane one (now isnt' that funny
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as far as he goes, he always keeps to his schedule has only jerked around with my support chk twice in ten years, and yes is def. a basket case. reason i divorced him. he's an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), depressed on and off anxiety paranoia ridden guy. that means well yet damanges all that is in his path. he needs help, always has. will never get it.
yet her relationship with him is very important to her, she loves her dad. poor husband runs around all day yesterday jumping thru hoops of fire and she acknowledges nothing. a whole other issue there. she wont' warm to him totally hasnt' for years. hopefully therapy and family therapy will address that as well. yet dad shows up, lies to her and says he took day off for her (liar!!!) can't make time for her thsi weekend even though it isnt' her weekend with-him would of been nice thing to do and she puts him on a pedestal. typical kid behavior in divorced/remarried situation. especially for a difficult child.
he the ex called here today umm about ten times, that's just my phone not difficult child's text about 7 times, reciting legalities from our decree on his rite to info etc. lol. how dare we sleep and not wake up to update him. my answer to that kiss my ............. you can fill in blank. i told him i won't be harrassed, nor will difficult child. you anxiety and paranoia makes her crazy and i have to control it somewhat and i may have to start watching her cell and your incoming calls. yet rather not due that so take a deep breath and get it together. his response i wont' be communicating with you anymore. my answer GREAT!!!
anyway, gotta go chk on her, just wanted to jump in quick. alot to read thru later, so many good ideas. gotta read it when i have time to really take it in.