Andre is in Ft. Knox!!

[ChefPaula1965]

First of all Thanks to all of you who responded to my previous post..............
I figured it was best to start a new post for the New news.... (I rarely am able to go online on the week ends.. sorry for the delayed response)


whooo hoooo !!!
He went to Ft. Knox.... with-o an escort ... before he left the county jail.. they told him about being court marshalled if he doesn't go!!!

Any how, YESTERDAY was his birthday!! the BIG 18...

Just to answer some questions... LoneStar, Andre went into the Army in order to avoid being homeless... he had burnt so many bridges with- so many people.. He went AWOL for a complete difficult child reason.... he made a mistake and got in trouble, when he defended himself by telling them that he did not know he was breaking a rule "they all laughed at me".......

The idea of sending him with-o an escort, in my humble opinion... was very stuppid.... but the Army just dsnt want to put extra money into the deserters..

He will be held a FT Knox until Friday.. then he will be taken off the base and released... no ticket to anywhere.. no money... no nothing!!! of course we all know that this was of his own doing... and this Mommy is trying to detach...
for his birthday I got him a calling card with- 200 mins.. gave him the nmbrs when he called yesterday... so he could call the people he needs to to get where he needs to go.....
After that he is on own..... I can do no more....
you all are the BEST people to talk to... this is a GREAT place to be.....

 

[susiestar]

Glad he is facing up to his actions. Also glad mommy is detaching and will not be bringing him home with her.

I can understand the Army not wanting to put money into deserters. They have a whole lot of them, esp now in wartime.

susie

 

[KTMom91]

Glad Andre made it to Fort Knox...and sending hugs and a peaceful day for you.

 

[Big Bad Kitty]

I am glad he did the right thing.

Stay strong, warrior mom. You handled this very well.

 

[everywoman]

Prayers that he will be able to find the help he needs. I know that detaching is the only way to survive the insanity of our difficult children.

 

[Hound dog]

I am so relieved Andre made it to Fort Knox!!! Thanks for the update.

Happy Birthday to Andre. Probably will be one he won't forget.

And good for you for staying detached. I know it hasn't been easy.

Hugs

 

[WhymeMom?]

Stay strong, being a mother of a difficult child is not for sissies.......

 

[LoneStar14]

Great news (under the circumstances). Make sure he has access to the area defense counsel. Charges or no charges, he needs to see them soon--like yesterday.

 

[ChefPaula1965]

what is this Area defense.. and how does he get ahold of them? I don't have acess to calling him... he can call me from a pay phone though.. will give him this great info... as soon as I hear from him!
Thanks so much
Paula

 

[Suz]

All he had to do was go turn himself in and be held there for a few days? I assume he is also getting a "dishonorable discharge" or whatever they call it.

Boy Paula........Andre needs to be counting his blessings. He's one lucky guy!

Hang in there!

Suz

 

[ChefPaula1965]

Suz, you are absolutely right...
Andre always gets off easy... he has always had that type of aura around him..
however this time it is not so easy since the dishonerable will follow him his whole life.... kinda like a "trator" mark...
But he could have made this all easier on himself.. I guess he did not want to turn himself in when he would have been able to continue his service... he did not want to do that!!
What a CRAZY kid....
Messed up is more like it!
Hugs
Paula

 

[Abbey]

My brother spent 2 years at Ft. Knox years ago. He was the ultimate difficult child. He got caught selling weed to an under cover officer. Dishonerable discharge, etc.

Fast forward MANY years, he's a multi-millionare. There is not one person on earth that would have thought this could happen, but it did. This guy stops in the middle of every sentence to think about what he was saying, but somehow he made it. Right place...right time.

Bless his soul, he still lives in a $5000 house in North Dakota that my sister bought for him 15 years ago. He's fixed it up, but doesn't choose to move on. It's good to see him so happy after such a hard youth.

So, there IS some hope.

Abbey

 

[ChefPaula1965]

wow abbey..
what a great story..
thanks for sharing that with me...
there is a wee part of my heart saying that there is hope for Andre .........
I have a BIG BIG BIG softspot for him which he knows of but that I am trying to hide from him right now.... need to work hard at detachment.............
I think I am doing pretty well at this..
the temptation would be to send money for flight here....
NOT THIS WARRIOR MOM!!!

 

[LoneStar14]

I must have been really tired this morning. Paula, I totally missed your entire post. Geeze. The Area Defense Counsel is like the lawyers for service people. But I think there's a different name for the army. I'll see what I can find out. It looks like they're not going to court martial him, just boot him out. Unless he wants to fight them and stay in, he might be better off just taking his discharge and moving on. But it might also help him getting a better discharge. He should talk to them.

 

[Star*]

Count me in as MIA - I swear I read your post and replied. Then I came back to see other posts and nope. Sorry. Fiddle faddle brain today - some sweet, some nutty.

The rest of the stuff will work itself out eventually -
I'm just glad that he's safe and calls you so you don't worry more.
The fact that he WENT to me is the miracle here. Maybe that shows some signs of maturity or tough love actually working in the background of his mind? A parent can hope!

I don't know about todays kids - but I dated a fella in high school who joined the army and got 'discharged'. He came back and said it was for flat feet. Later we all found out it did involve his feet - but for walking off and going AWOL.

My generation still had fall-out over Vietnam - so when he was found out as a deserter? It didn't go over very well with the gang. But that's back when the majority gave a hang about our country. Hard to tell anymore.

Hugs
Star

 

[LoneStar14]

I don't know about todays kids - but I dated a fella in high school who joined the army and got 'discharged'. He came back and said it was for flat feet. Later we all found out it did involve his feet - but for walking off and going AWOL.

lol

Is that like having an eye problem? He had a problem seeing himself in the army?

 

[ChefPaula1965]

LoneStar, thanks for the link..
lol I am having eye problems tryingto decifer info...........
Also, you confused me BIG time with- changing your avatar.. I don't do well with change...
And star.. you are right.. it is so sad now a days to see how many people realy refuse to be patriotic..I have lived in other countries..... and I am glad to be an American!!!
I like the "flat feet" excuse.... that was a really good one....

 

[meowbunny]

Glad he showed up. Even more glad that you're staying strong. This must be so hard on you.

HUGS

 

[ChefPaula1965]

Glad he showed up. Even more glad that you're staying strong. This must be so hard on you.

HUGS

Yes, this is VERY hard on me... I SO miss him and love him and hate to think that he may be homeless... has no way of getting anywhere ... BUT I also know that he has not changed yet........ (I can keep hoping).. and with his alcohol and drug problems he is a menace to our family especially the "littles". I simply can not have him in our home...
I wish he would turn himself into a drug rehab center.. there are some out there that are charity driven... he would have a place to stay.. solid meals and encouragement to stop his life style.... BUT we are probably very far from that right now..
HE HAS GOT TO BE THE ONE WHO WANTS IT!!!!!
So here I am being a Warrior.. and standing strong....

 

[Shari]

Paula...sorry its taken me so long to reply. I'm glad Andre at least did what's right...that's a start.

Hang tough. He has to learn to do for himself and this is his shot to do that. Its hard, but you know its what you've got to do.

Hugs!