I think the people on the case mgt team will continue benefits until the end of the school year. We have to have these meetings every three months, so probably have one in June. Of cause Difficult Child could sign off on everything by next week. I won't be getting info unless from professionals after this point, unless she signs off on it. To be honest, I am not sure how much I want to be involved in the future.
We will keep her on our family health ins. policy, but I will change her to her own account at the local doctors office and dental office. She will still have state insurance, unless she signs off on all services, at least until the next case plan. I am going to sit down with her and say, I am willing to pay the following copays: 2 dental checkups a year, 2 yearly family doctor visits a year, and once a month mental health visits. Of course, if she keeps services, and has a medical card as secondary, we/she would not have any copays. She is a bit of a hypochondriac...always feels that her pain, illness, etc is Emergency Room level.
We have applied for disability, not sure if she will even qualify, her diagnosis is are: static encephalopathy, alcohol exposed, ADHD, anxiety, depression.
I have always been her external brain. She doesn't really know what she doesn't know. I have tried backing off of reminders. Yesterday after school, I mentioned that she worked today, and did she have clean work clothes? No...she needed to do a load. Came home, watched TV, ate supper, then went to a friends house. Back at 9pm. Watched tv. About 9:15 - light bulb went off, and she said she needed to get a load in the wash. 10pm, I had to leave to pick up younger daughter after choir trip. Asked if her if she started a load...oops! She said a friend asked her to check on the scores for basketball games...got distracted. I got home at 10:45, she had started a load, still running. Fast forward to this morning, she didn't set an alarm for school, or turned it off. I woke her up at 7:15. 7:30, I asked if close to be ready, she said no, because little sister wasn't near ready. I told her the choir director gave them an extra hour to rest...then she was mad because I didn't tell her that. Basically, she drags her feet, and if she is late, she blames it on someone else.
She was late for school...I almost always make two trips to school...it is about 12 blocks...so not a big deal. She knows she doesn't have to wait for younger sis...
Anyway, i am rambling. She will "talk the talk" at these meetings...but they never see the back story. She has such poor executive function skills...but has good verbal skills and good IQ. They probably see her as above average from other people who are visibly more challenged. What they don't see is that her successes are because I am there, helping her to get thru school, running interference. But I can't do this from a distance, or with one arm tied behind my back.
I think they are setting her up to fail... KSM
We will keep her on our family health ins. policy, but I will change her to her own account at the local doctors office and dental office. She will still have state insurance, unless she signs off on all services, at least until the next case plan. I am going to sit down with her and say, I am willing to pay the following copays: 2 dental checkups a year, 2 yearly family doctor visits a year, and once a month mental health visits. Of course, if she keeps services, and has a medical card as secondary, we/she would not have any copays. She is a bit of a hypochondriac...always feels that her pain, illness, etc is Emergency Room level.
We have applied for disability, not sure if she will even qualify, her diagnosis is are: static encephalopathy, alcohol exposed, ADHD, anxiety, depression.
I have always been her external brain. She doesn't really know what she doesn't know. I have tried backing off of reminders. Yesterday after school, I mentioned that she worked today, and did she have clean work clothes? No...she needed to do a load. Came home, watched TV, ate supper, then went to a friends house. Back at 9pm. Watched tv. About 9:15 - light bulb went off, and she said she needed to get a load in the wash. 10pm, I had to leave to pick up younger daughter after choir trip. Asked if her if she started a load...oops! She said a friend asked her to check on the scores for basketball games...got distracted. I got home at 10:45, she had started a load, still running. Fast forward to this morning, she didn't set an alarm for school, or turned it off. I woke her up at 7:15. 7:30, I asked if close to be ready, she said no, because little sister wasn't near ready. I told her the choir director gave them an extra hour to rest...then she was mad because I didn't tell her that. Basically, she drags her feet, and if she is late, she blames it on someone else.
She was late for school...I almost always make two trips to school...it is about 12 blocks...so not a big deal. She knows she doesn't have to wait for younger sis...
Anyway, i am rambling. She will "talk the talk" at these meetings...but they never see the back story. She has such poor executive function skills...but has good verbal skills and good IQ. They probably see her as above average from other people who are visibly more challenged. What they don't see is that her successes are because I am there, helping her to get thru school, running interference. But I can't do this from a distance, or with one arm tied behind my back.
I think they are setting her up to fail... KSM
