Blondiesbf
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So, some of the good vibes worked. I'm happy and disappointed at the same time, if that makes sense. R got the following:
Two years court supervision
Six months license suspension with-option to get the breathilyzer thing @ $30/mo, probably less based on his income
Level III counseling (not sure what that is yet)
$2000 fine
and a victim thing he has to attend.
That's it. While I'm glad, at some levels, that he didn't go to jail, at other levels I was hoping for a bit of a stiffer punishment. I feel like he got off just a tad too easy and once again, he will go along his merry way.
But, mind you, I'm still reeling from the latest revelation I found out about today...R is now popping pills, specifically Xanax. I don't yet know how much or how often. I also noticed he was wearing his ratty sneaks to court. I asked him where the ones were that I bought him three months ago...he said "at home". Found out the truth is, he sold them. How easily he lied to me.
The bottom line is, my son is hurting and without his desire to help himself, I can't help him...and that hurts. I know he has to hit bottom first, but I hate that I can't help him explore and overcome his pain...to get him to see a professional! The waiting can be so incredibly frustrating. And now that he is adding to his repitoire, I'm feeling more urgency then ever before!
So, that's where we stand. Thank-you all for the support and good vibes...it did some good!
Hugs,
Sheila
Two years court supervision
Six months license suspension with-option to get the breathilyzer thing @ $30/mo, probably less based on his income
Level III counseling (not sure what that is yet)
$2000 fine
and a victim thing he has to attend.
That's it. While I'm glad, at some levels, that he didn't go to jail, at other levels I was hoping for a bit of a stiffer punishment. I feel like he got off just a tad too easy and once again, he will go along his merry way.
But, mind you, I'm still reeling from the latest revelation I found out about today...R is now popping pills, specifically Xanax. I don't yet know how much or how often. I also noticed he was wearing his ratty sneaks to court. I asked him where the ones were that I bought him three months ago...he said "at home". Found out the truth is, he sold them. How easily he lied to me.
The bottom line is, my son is hurting and without his desire to help himself, I can't help him...and that hurts. I know he has to hit bottom first, but I hate that I can't help him explore and overcome his pain...to get him to see a professional! The waiting can be so incredibly frustrating. And now that he is adding to his repitoire, I'm feeling more urgency then ever before!
So, that's where we stand. Thank-you all for the support and good vibes...it did some good!
Hugs,
Sheila