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I love that you are being careful with your wording. That can't be easy after such a big shock. Just a thought. If this was my child, he would never be able to do homework AFTER being talked to because he might be embarassed, defensive, obsessive, etc. Maybe wait till after he does his homework, then have the talk???
I think once you let him know, you will need to explain that since he is a child, it is your JOB to protect him. So, to do that you are going to have to monitor his use of the internet. You will have parent protection passwords and software installed (people here use different kinds, it is your choice, I use Norton Family Online-it is free and you do not need to buy the norton anti-virus package to have it) that will let you know each site he is on and when he tries to get into a site that is not appropriate, a notice will be sent to your email. Be prepared for him to be really mad at you because he will be caught, and upset at a HUGE change in his activities (if you know what I mean). He may get aggressive. Let him know that if he is aggressive, you may need to say NO internet for a day. As long a he rebuilds his trust you will let him use the internet, if he breaks the trust, then the internet will not be available.
This is just how I do this stuff. If it doesn't work for you of course do what does. Other moms here who have been thru this will likely have much more wise suggestions! Keep the questions coming!
I think once you let him know, you will need to explain that since he is a child, it is your JOB to protect him. So, to do that you are going to have to monitor his use of the internet. You will have parent protection passwords and software installed (people here use different kinds, it is your choice, I use Norton Family Online-it is free and you do not need to buy the norton anti-virus package to have it) that will let you know each site he is on and when he tries to get into a site that is not appropriate, a notice will be sent to your email. Be prepared for him to be really mad at you because he will be caught, and upset at a HUGE change in his activities (if you know what I mean). He may get aggressive. Let him know that if he is aggressive, you may need to say NO internet for a day. As long a he rebuilds his trust you will let him use the internet, if he breaks the trust, then the internet will not be available.
This is just how I do this stuff. If it doesn't work for you of course do what does. Other moms here who have been thru this will likely have much more wise suggestions! Keep the questions coming!