DGD and her boyfriend finally got in to a low income duplex last week. She is working about 20 hours a week and boyfriend is (finally!!) working about 25/30 hours a week. He had been out of jail for 6 months before finding a job. DGD is due in about 6/7 weeks.
Having them in our town has been a huge relief as they were living with the BFs Dad in a small town 20 miles fom us and do not have a car. Their duplex is 6 blocks from the fast food place he works at and a little over a mile fom her job. We will continue giving her a ride as she is very uncomfortable at this stage of pregnancy. She is barely 5 ft tall so not much space for baby at this point.
This weekend is a baby shower that his dad's girlfriend is hosting. I still worry on how this will turn out. A day before they were to move, they argued and she decided not to let him move in with her. But by the afternoon, she changed her mind. He was calling her a b****, and dropping f*** bombs and using n word. She told him she would not allow that around their daughter. (He is biracial).
She's afraid now that he is working, he will spend his money as he wants and then they can't pay rent and utilities. The last 4 to 5 months, she was working, they didn't have to pay his dad for food or rent, or pay for gas to go to work, and they (he) still managed to blow her weekly check.
In two days, he goes back to court to see if he's the father of a 2 year old who is now in foster care. The mother was neglectful and child removed. He did a DNA test...he doesn't think the child is his, as he isn't "bi-racial" enough. Their was another possible father listed on court papers, but he didn't show up in court. He also has 1 or 2 boys from his wife (who he is not divorced from). Her first husband has the two older boys, and her mom has the youngest. Neither he or his estranged wife have any parental rights to her 3 boys. And this is what scares me the most. DGD is doing good...except for being in a relationship and pregnancy with this guy.
I'm afraid that she will be under extra scrutiny because of his past. It's scary, because we have already old her that we will not raise a third generation. We will be involved, as any grand/great grandparent would be.
I know there is really nothing we can do, except be supportive and have boundaries. Excited and scared all at the same time. Ksm
Having them in our town has been a huge relief as they were living with the BFs Dad in a small town 20 miles fom us and do not have a car. Their duplex is 6 blocks from the fast food place he works at and a little over a mile fom her job. We will continue giving her a ride as she is very uncomfortable at this stage of pregnancy. She is barely 5 ft tall so not much space for baby at this point.
This weekend is a baby shower that his dad's girlfriend is hosting. I still worry on how this will turn out. A day before they were to move, they argued and she decided not to let him move in with her. But by the afternoon, she changed her mind. He was calling her a b****, and dropping f*** bombs and using n word. She told him she would not allow that around their daughter. (He is biracial).
She's afraid now that he is working, he will spend his money as he wants and then they can't pay rent and utilities. The last 4 to 5 months, she was working, they didn't have to pay his dad for food or rent, or pay for gas to go to work, and they (he) still managed to blow her weekly check.
In two days, he goes back to court to see if he's the father of a 2 year old who is now in foster care. The mother was neglectful and child removed. He did a DNA test...he doesn't think the child is his, as he isn't "bi-racial" enough. Their was another possible father listed on court papers, but he didn't show up in court. He also has 1 or 2 boys from his wife (who he is not divorced from). Her first husband has the two older boys, and her mom has the youngest. Neither he or his estranged wife have any parental rights to her 3 boys. And this is what scares me the most. DGD is doing good...except for being in a relationship and pregnancy with this guy.
I'm afraid that she will be under extra scrutiny because of his past. It's scary, because we have already old her that we will not raise a third generation. We will be involved, as any grand/great grandparent would be.
I know there is really nothing we can do, except be supportive and have boundaries. Excited and scared all at the same time. Ksm
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