I've been sitting here staring at my screen for a half an hour because I can not find the words to describe what I am feeling. I am trying really, really hard not to say the words that I feel right now towards difficult child. On the anger meter 1-10, I am at 1000 right now. I can not believe she did what she just did. I WANT HER OUT OF MY LIFE NOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW
difficult child crossed a major line
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Bone Weary
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Praying for your comfort and protection!
BusynMember
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What laws make you keep her at home? Did she put you in danger? If so, you should call the police. If she is a danger to you, you need to do whatever you can to get her away from you and the police could do that. I have no idea what she did, but violence, stealing, many things are against the law and there is no way you can't make her leave if she is over 21.
Does she even know about eviction laws? Please...you need to take care of yourself.
Do you have a therapist for yourself? We need one as much as our grown children do!!! If you feel like you may do something dangerous, please call a crisis line for help. We care about you.
Does she even know about eviction laws? Please...you need to take care of yourself.
Do you have a therapist for yourself? We need one as much as our grown children do!!! If you feel like you may do something dangerous, please call a crisis line for help. We care about you.
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Again, eviction laws. Please do not let me think about it because I get very angry thinking about what the cops say to me. They seem very happy to deliver the news to me that there is nothing I can do unless I do eviction, which then would put my safety at great risk even further. My difficult child does not take laws seriously, and yes, I do feel like she could hurt me very badly , even kill me, if that kind of pressure is brought upon her by an eviction notice. You have no idea what this girl has done to me in anger already. I explain all of this to the police, time and time again, but no one can tell what would really happen. Regardless, I am moving at the end of december. It really seems like a far time away from now....I am living under 100% duress. I hate the fact my abuser and my terrorist is my own daughter. I am angry in about a thousand different ways because I have felt nothing short of a hostage living with her. The abuse is really bad. I even video it and showed the cops the last time they were here and they just IGNORED it. I really think they get happy telling me that there is nothing they can do unless she lays a hand on me and even then, it's her word against my word. My daughter would hurt herself to put marks on herself to say that I hit her if the cops ever did come under those circumstances. She has ZERO problem lying to the police and throwing me into jail. She would throw me into jail in a blink of an eye. Things are BAD here. I can't wait until I am gone , oh my god , I can not wait. Almost over, but yet so far.....two months and two weeks....might seem like a short amount of time to you all, but that is dog years for us right now. The pressure is on and she knows that she has to move and has no where to go. You think she is going to go out easy? Nah uh. This is already known. Hopefully I will have my safe zone set up for the last two months. It starts this Friday. I am going to stay with a friend the majority of the time until the end of december. If that works out, at least I'll have that much. It's just a travesty that I have to live this way, don't you agree?
BusynMember
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GM, I think you should talk to a lawyer. You may be able to remove her, if she is dangerous, without having to worry about eviction laws. I definitely do think December is a long time away if your daughter is a threat to kill you. Sadly, my son was also a danger to me. I didn't call the police. Maybe I should have. Instead, he left one day and I never allowed him back in. As smart as he is, and he is VERY smart, he never thought of eviction laws, nor did I since I'd never thought about it as an eviction. He did not come back or try to get back into the house. If he had, I may have had to call a lawyer because he was not only dangerous to me, he was dangerous to my daughter.
I always think it is very sad when those we love abuse us. When it is our children, it is the saddest of all. But parent abuse is getting more publicity lately and it is far more common than we ever realized. And it is no more acceptable than parent's abusing children. Abuse is abuse.
Hang in there and we are here for you.
I always think it is very sad when those we love abuse us. When it is our children, it is the saddest of all. But parent abuse is getting more publicity lately and it is far more common than we ever realized. And it is no more acceptable than parent's abusing children. Abuse is abuse.
Hang in there and we are here for you.
Well, one time, when the police were here, they made it KNOWN to her what the eviction laws were. I spoke to several attorney's and they all couldn't help. They acted like I was speaking a different language when I explained the story to them. So yeah, I am screwed. I just keep going back to being in disbelief that this is happening with my own daughter.
donna723
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Do you have a domestic violence group in your area? CALL THEM! Usually they deal with spousal abuse but this is basically the same thing and they WILL help you and it's all strictly confidential. They will give you valuable advice, help you make a plan to ensure your safety, even give you a safe place to stay if you need it. PLEASE call them! They will help you.
2much2recover
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I agree with calling domestic violence center as they can give you YOUR RIGHTS if you are being abused. There have been changing thoughts on protecting ALL victims of DV - even parents/family member. You won't know what resources are available to you unless you make the call.
Lil
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I agree what everyone else has said. Call the local battered woman's shelter. Also, you could try going to the court and asking for a domestic abuse restraining order removing her from the home! Literally, most places you go to the clerk's office, they help you fill out the petition and see the judge in his office. You should be able to apply for a temporary restraining order, tell a judge your story, and if he grants it, she would not know until the cops showed up and told her to pack. If he does not grant it, she'll never know you tried.
Short of that, there is no law against being nasty and screaming and shouting. Most likely, only if you have been physically injured will she be arrested.
Short of that, there is no law against being nasty and screaming and shouting. Most likely, only if you have been physically injured will she be arrested.
