SuZir
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difficult child is, again, at crisis. Seems to be bimonthly occurrence this fall. At least it has mostly been two steps forward, one step back till now. Im sorry that this is not going to make much sense, but it is because I dont really get it either. difficult child wasnt being the most coherent.
I was at Church Christmas concert and when I came out I noticed I had six unanswered calls from difficult child and one from his positional coach. I called back to difficult child and it was chaos. He sounded like he was in panic, his girlfriend was screaming and being hysteric on the background and their puppy was barking and sounding scared. So not good at all. difficult childs team had a Christmas party for fans today and apparently difficult child has bolted from there middle of it because someone was being obnoxious and is afraid of consequences. He has also had some other disciplinary troubles earlier this week that involved him jumping up and down stairs for three hours over a tissue on the floor. Or it had something to do with pop corn. I really didnt get that one.
As I said, a girlfriend was hysterical (and maybe drunk, sounded like that), screaming and calling names and sounded like she was sure difficult child would be booted from the team over this and was worried what would happen then. She was also angry with either difficult child talking with me or difficult child using our first language to do so and quite offensive. During the call she was at times closer and farther away from difficult child but several times difficult child asked her not to push him or slap or scratch him. That is what Im most worried right now. difficult child isnt physically violent and tends to flight rather than fight. But if girlfriend corners him bad enough, he may push her to get away. girlfriend is petite, difficult child is anything but. That could turn ugly quickly.
I tried to talk difficult child to leave the flat. I told him that the puppy was scared because of them fighting and that he should take a puppy and go to walk and cool down. Im not sure if he did that. He sounded totally stuck. The way he at times ends up there he is not able to think rationally but just sticks to one thought or thing. Now it was how he had screwed up and how everything was going to Hades. To be honest I think he is exasperating and catastrophising. Im already home and no one has called husband or tried to call me again. If he had really screwed up big time, we would likely have a call from his agent already. I doubt difficult child is answering the calls he may be getting, at least he isnt answering mine.
Times like this I really hate we live three hours away. Of course I dont know if meddling would be for any help, but just now I would so much want to be able to go there and make sure difficult child and girlfriend stay away from each other till they have calmed down. I did call back to positional coach, but he didnt answer. It is just nerve-wracking to get these pits and pieces and not to know what is happening.
If difficult child gets himself kicked out (and if he hasnt done something outrageous like hit a fan or something, he says he just run away, didnt even say anything to obnoxious fan) it is a shame but not the end of the world. His agent has been receiving several fresh start/clean slate early inquiries for him lately. Thing is that he is not on need of fresh start but the back wall that doesnt give in and doesnt have loopholes but forces him to change direction. And he does have that one there he is. And it is total deluxe model with just enough cushion and flexibility to cause headache and some lumps and have a real feel when you bang your head against it, but provides enough cushions to not cause any long term injuries. And also provides a great bounce when he finally decides to make a turn. But even if he falls from that, his talent will still buy him some more chances.
I have a pit of my stomach and again nothing I can do. I hate how perfectly nice evening can turn to this with one phone call.
I was at Church Christmas concert and when I came out I noticed I had six unanswered calls from difficult child and one from his positional coach. I called back to difficult child and it was chaos. He sounded like he was in panic, his girlfriend was screaming and being hysteric on the background and their puppy was barking and sounding scared. So not good at all. difficult childs team had a Christmas party for fans today and apparently difficult child has bolted from there middle of it because someone was being obnoxious and is afraid of consequences. He has also had some other disciplinary troubles earlier this week that involved him jumping up and down stairs for three hours over a tissue on the floor. Or it had something to do with pop corn. I really didnt get that one.
As I said, a girlfriend was hysterical (and maybe drunk, sounded like that), screaming and calling names and sounded like she was sure difficult child would be booted from the team over this and was worried what would happen then. She was also angry with either difficult child talking with me or difficult child using our first language to do so and quite offensive. During the call she was at times closer and farther away from difficult child but several times difficult child asked her not to push him or slap or scratch him. That is what Im most worried right now. difficult child isnt physically violent and tends to flight rather than fight. But if girlfriend corners him bad enough, he may push her to get away. girlfriend is petite, difficult child is anything but. That could turn ugly quickly.
I tried to talk difficult child to leave the flat. I told him that the puppy was scared because of them fighting and that he should take a puppy and go to walk and cool down. Im not sure if he did that. He sounded totally stuck. The way he at times ends up there he is not able to think rationally but just sticks to one thought or thing. Now it was how he had screwed up and how everything was going to Hades. To be honest I think he is exasperating and catastrophising. Im already home and no one has called husband or tried to call me again. If he had really screwed up big time, we would likely have a call from his agent already. I doubt difficult child is answering the calls he may be getting, at least he isnt answering mine.
Times like this I really hate we live three hours away. Of course I dont know if meddling would be for any help, but just now I would so much want to be able to go there and make sure difficult child and girlfriend stay away from each other till they have calmed down. I did call back to positional coach, but he didnt answer. It is just nerve-wracking to get these pits and pieces and not to know what is happening.
If difficult child gets himself kicked out (and if he hasnt done something outrageous like hit a fan or something, he says he just run away, didnt even say anything to obnoxious fan) it is a shame but not the end of the world. His agent has been receiving several fresh start/clean slate early inquiries for him lately. Thing is that he is not on need of fresh start but the back wall that doesnt give in and doesnt have loopholes but forces him to change direction. And he does have that one there he is. And it is total deluxe model with just enough cushion and flexibility to cause headache and some lumps and have a real feel when you bang your head against it, but provides enough cushions to not cause any long term injuries. And also provides a great bounce when he finally decides to make a turn. But even if he falls from that, his talent will still buy him some more chances.
I have a pit of my stomach and again nothing I can do. I hate how perfectly nice evening can turn to this with one phone call.
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