DramaQueenLucy
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Graduation is around the corner and it is time for him to face some hard facts. I told him last night that I'm done with him, his lies and manipulation. He claims that he is looking for a job but I don't really know if he is or not. The car now boasts a for sale sign and is parked away from the house. I did allow him to use my van a bit last night to look but that stops today because he stole money from the car got himself McDonald's for dinner and tossed his trash in the front yard.
I told him last night that this isn't going to continue. If he doesn't have a car then he has no way to get to the collage to take courses. So then he could get a job and move out. If he does manage to get a job and keep the car, if it hasn't sold yet, then he could stay home as long as he pays me rent and he covers all his bills.
The bottom line here is no job, no school, no home and no car, his choice.
Now it gets tricky because my difficult child is a wonderful manipulator and he calls my parents. He easily pulls the wool over their eyes. I talked to my mother this morning and told her that this is how it is going to be. She wants to 'talk' to him. I told her that I'm not the only one he had lied to about looking for a job. She told me oh that poor kid he has had it so rough...blah blah blah! Yeah he had it hard when his father killed himself, difficult child found him dead but that was 11 years ago and even his PsychDoc says that he is past it as a matter of fact at his last testing, 3 years ago, they removed Post Traumatic Stress and moved him up from ODD to CD.
I lost it...told her that poor kid lied to all of us for the last year, lived off of my money and took advantage of you and your money. He is still screwing around at school, I got a call from his teacher yesterday, and acting like a little kid.
I told him last night that this isn't going to continue. If he doesn't have a car then he has no way to get to the collage to take courses. So then he could get a job and move out. If he does manage to get a job and keep the car, if it hasn't sold yet, then he could stay home as long as he pays me rent and he covers all his bills.
The bottom line here is no job, no school, no home and no car, his choice.
Now it gets tricky because my difficult child is a wonderful manipulator and he calls my parents. He easily pulls the wool over their eyes. I talked to my mother this morning and told her that this is how it is going to be. She wants to 'talk' to him. I told her that I'm not the only one he had lied to about looking for a job. She told me oh that poor kid he has had it so rough...blah blah blah! Yeah he had it hard when his father killed himself, difficult child found him dead but that was 11 years ago and even his PsychDoc says that he is past it as a matter of fact at his last testing, 3 years ago, they removed Post Traumatic Stress and moved him up from ODD to CD.
I lost it...told her that poor kid lied to all of us for the last year, lived off of my money and took advantage of you and your money. He is still screwing around at school, I got a call from his teacher yesterday, and acting like a little kid.