Thank you all for your lovely and supportive replies. I am starting to pack to drive to NYC and MrNo just called wanting to go over the Thursday through Sunday schedule so that all works smoothly and is strees-free as possible. I KNOW he is capable, but it is these little unexpected moments that still make me realize how far he has come and how lucky we are. He has always worked hard at music, I grant him that, but there were so many other problems to overcome, and he seems to have done that, too.
I can't end without putting on my professor hat: research is indicating more strongly, including the outcome study done on this board, that the earlier you intervene, the more likely the positive outcome. No one around here says, "he'll out grow it--it's just a phase," but you can still hear that out in the world. Don't listen. I believe that the major reason EGBS worked for both MrNo and Penta's girl is they got there young (for adolescent programs) and without major drug habits. Early adolescence is the pits for both boys and girls, but it is really the last time you can have a lot of control over a difficult child's treatment.
I love you all, and will try to contribute my small share to Special Education 101. My life has been quite hectic for the last 6 to 8 months, but I hope to sign on daily now that summer is here.
Thank you all again,
Martie