I've never lived with a gaslighter in a marriage. That must be hades. I have some who intentionally or unintentionally are in my family and they an do a good job of convincing you that your memory is false and that you are a bit off the rails. Of course, they either don't have good memories themselves or can't face reality or lived a different experience in the same environment and believe EVERYONE had the same experience. Is that gaslighting too? I'm not sure since it it more ignorance of human experience than an attempt to get you to believe the sky is red. I think... It is more, "I didn't have that experience with XXX so you're lying and you didn't either." Gaslighting or just being a fool?