Well as I stated, I have to try to get through to him. He has been doing drugs and doesn't realize what position he put himself in, his head is full of concerns qnd problems with no real answers on how to go about fixing himself and seeing the baby. He hsn't realized that he cant do both at once... because his girlfriend is playing the game of keeping the baby from him unless he goes there.
He was released from court after his 30 day treatment today. He wanted to see the baby and girlfriend said come her and stay over. After a domestic charge she filed in the first place. She was going to court today to drop the charge and wants him back... but she didnt show and said that she couldn't get a sitter. As soon as difficult child agreed to come home here and get help via AA and outpatient... she changed her tune and played the baby game. She kept the baby from me this past weekend claiming she was ill... yet she had a party the next day and had her friend and her kids sleep over her small place with a sick child?? Oh she is playing games now! She is telling me she agrees he should come here and get help, and that she will let him have the baby here with me- to my face, but then tells him he has to go there. She could lose her kids and her apartment having him there now that the court has him as a drug addict. Make sense??? NO! She did the not show at court claiming no babysitter, so now they have a new court date and that charge isnt dropped yet. She is playing her card to control him. She told him if you want to see the baby, you have to come to her place and STAY the night. He hasn't see the baby in 30 days, so he went from court right there.
Also, his father showed up at court an hour late and missed the proceeding :hammer: I took the oportunity to try and talk to him (since he didnt return my calls) he was flaked out and talked like this is no big deal, no concern that his child is in danger of jail, drugs or death. It confirmed what I have said all along, and worse. He is not of any help to my son and also seemed drugged up or something. He wasn't focused, he was watching people while talking and not interested in the way a father should be when his son is in such a bad way.
So I confirmed all my beliefs. girlfriend is not going to help difficult child take the time to get better, she will hold the baby from him and now me. Father is as good as non existant.
Me and husband are the only ones in his life that have a straight head, if he doesn't want our support- then there is nothing more we can do and he will be worse off next mess up.
I know his girlfriend will call him in and have him arrested first time she is

off- and the case is open so he has no prayer. She claims the baby is sick(a cold) and she cant do it alone, yet she doesnt work and can focus on the baby 100%. She is showing signs of bipolar or something, she isn't right in the head that is for sure. If she wanted him to be drug free, she would support him in taking a time out for himself to get help.
Trust me, he has no idea, YET, what he is dealing with. Tomorrow I have to bring him to court 2 hrs away on another case... don't know if they will hold him?? But let me tell you, after we have our "reality check" talk tomorrow- we'll see where his head is at. Thats all I can do. And I may just end up in family court for gm rights. Oh JOY!