I'm usually so detached over difficult child and his antics, not wanting to know what he's doing because it's always the same behavior. Some of you remember my situation with him. He graduated HS, very violent, a complete liar, thief, and refusing to work. Long story short-we ended up having to get a restraining to keep difficult child away from us. It was bad, we didn't even know what normal was anymore, if ever. He was born like this, by the way. Fighting , stealing and suspensions were his personality pretty much. After that:
difficult child lived in a rooming house, and worked in a casino, living life-existing-but paying his own bills. Learning important life skills. husband is a carpenter, in a union, makes a fine living, with great benefits and when husband thought difficult child has his stuff together- brought him into the union too. He's been there about a year now and difficult child has completely screwed this up, his best opportunity. He will not pay his bills, get's "blotto" (his words) every night. He comes to work an hour late, whines and complains about how work *****, and it's like pulling teeth to get any work out of him. He bums money from everyone. He told husband yesterday the reason he was late was because , "Duh, I was hungover". I keep away all this nonsence and NEVER want to hear it, but yesterday difficult child came over and told me how he can't pay his bills because, "what am I just supposed to not have any fun". HE ALSO STOLE easy child'S IPOD. I thought husband was gonna have a heart attack yesterday, husband was freaking out and difficult child and he did bring it back. Today difficult child got to work and started yelling at husband, he wanted money!!!! And he was a mess!!!!!!!!!!- husband fired him and I know, I KNOW I have to be detached, but I'm still very upset, heartbroken and sad for him. And for my poor husband who is never detatched from this- it's killing him. I can't even get into that-the stress. What will become of difficult child???Thank you for letting me vent. I tried to discuss this with my BFF-this subject is usually off limits- and I started to cry.-Alyssa
difficult child lived in a rooming house, and worked in a casino, living life-existing-but paying his own bills. Learning important life skills. husband is a carpenter, in a union, makes a fine living, with great benefits and when husband thought difficult child has his stuff together- brought him into the union too. He's been there about a year now and difficult child has completely screwed this up, his best opportunity. He will not pay his bills, get's "blotto" (his words) every night. He comes to work an hour late, whines and complains about how work *****, and it's like pulling teeth to get any work out of him. He bums money from everyone. He told husband yesterday the reason he was late was because , "Duh, I was hungover". I keep away all this nonsence and NEVER want to hear it, but yesterday difficult child came over and told me how he can't pay his bills because, "what am I just supposed to not have any fun". HE ALSO STOLE easy child'S IPOD. I thought husband was gonna have a heart attack yesterday, husband was freaking out and difficult child and he did bring it back. Today difficult child got to work and started yelling at husband, he wanted money!!!! And he was a mess!!!!!!!!!!- husband fired him and I know, I KNOW I have to be detached, but I'm still very upset, heartbroken and sad for him. And for my poor husband who is never detatched from this- it's killing him. I can't even get into that-the stress. What will become of difficult child???Thank you for letting me vent. I tried to discuss this with my BFF-this subject is usually off limits- and I started to cry.-Alyssa