Hi,
Have been MIA for a little bit. Lost my job so I am stressing about getting another one.
difficult child began to hang with one of his "friends" that we do not care for about a week ago. Sunday night, he said he was staying over there. I do not know if he did or if they were out all night or what. At 9:00 Monday morning, I got a call from the manager of a windshield repair shop in town stating that my son had been in a car accident and ended up in his parking lot and that he was being taken via ambulance to the hospital. I called husband and he met me there-then I got a call and the guy told me that either difficult child or his passenger ("friend") complained of severe pain and they decided to take them to The medication which is the Truama Center in the nearby larger city. We raced over there. PANIC!!! When I got in to see him, they told me he had 7 stitches in his forehead and that he was so combative with them that they tied him down and heavily sedated him and put a breathing tube down his throat and hooked him to a respirator so that they could get all the tests (cat scan, x rays, etc). He looked near death to me. They said the "friend" told them they had been drinking and had taken Xanax!
Word travels fast in our town and within 2 hours, the waiting room was full of kids who were waiting along with us. The xrays and cat scan came back with no bad results. He has a mild concussion and the stitches. The kids were all allowed to see him in the state I saw him in, complete with respirator and I think it opened some eyes.
He has admitted to drinking, not the Xanax, he did say the "friend" takes Xanax regularly, which I had heard through the grapevine. Now, in our town they do things crazy. The accident reports says "obviously intoxicated" and that he hit a curb, over corrected sending him across the dotted line, over corrected again and jumped the curb into the parking lot of the windshield place, hit a parked car (totalled) and knocked it into the car parked next to it". Oh yeah, he REALLY pulled a boner! We have yet to hear anything from the police. He has not been charged or arrested. I have a friend who used to work for the police dept. who checked and said the officer on the scene has been off duty for the last few days and is back on today and that he will probably call today. difficult child is at work in the nearby larger city and they will not cross state line to arrest him. She says that if they call, they will ask me to have him come in after work and they will arrest him then if they are going to charge him. She says if he does not call by 5:00 today, not to worry, just to call city hall Monday to see when his court date is. His driver's license is missing and she says it is probably attached to his ticket and he won't get it back until he goes to court. So we have been waiting for the other shoe to drop. You would think, if they wanted him, thaey would come get him, no matter who is off duty!
We have $$ in savings put aside for difficult child that he is not aware of. husband had a long talk with him and cried and told him not to ever do this again. He took him to see his totalled car, which by the way, caught fire also! difficult child, I believe, has gotten a wake up call. husband told him this was his only wake up call. He told him that he was going to purchase the old beater next door for him to drive and that ONLY because he has a job and needs it to be able to pay his fines, he will bail him out if he is arrested. He told him that he will be lien holder on the title to the car and that difficult child is to pay $100 per month car payment and will pay back the bail. He will have to obtain insurance which will cost him out the ying yang and that "friend" is outta the picture. He told him that if he is seen or suspected of being with this kid that he will repossess the car and throw him out for good. If he is late with payments there will be 15% added to the balance and if payment is missed, the car will be locked down in the garage with the club on it until caught up. He told him that if there is ever anything else that comes up that involves drugs and/or alcohol, he will be thrown out for good. This has been typed up, signed and notarized. difficult child told me that it freaked him out and touched his heart to see husband cry. Additionally, husband asked him how he would feel if the car he hit had been my car and I had been in it. His answer was that he would wanna hurt whoever did it. husband told him to think on that every time anyone offers him something he knows he should not have. He also is ready to be arrested and get things moving. He has already been honest with his boss as to what happened and asked for cooperation when it comes to court dates and/or jail time.
His best friend (whom we love-great kid)) took a picture with his cell phone of him at the hospital and his car--he emailed it to his home computer and printed them out and brought them over last night and posted them on difficult child's bulletin board. He told difficult child that "he'd better be through with this S@#t, and leave the "friend" alone, or he was done with him"! difficult child and this kid have been like brothers over the last couple of years.
The "friend" is just one of those good kids that is so misguided, dad has drug/alcohol issues, mom has some of the same, step mother is trying, grandmother is a loon and spoils the kid rotten. The aunt yelled at me in the hospital and called difficult child names and said she would "whip his
" if she ever saw him again. I calmly told her that my son was fine, thanks for asking and that he did not hold her nephews's hand and force him to do anything and went straight to the security desk and asked that she be kept on the other side of the waiting room.
This ladies and gents has been my week on top of being unemployed for the last 2 weeks! Please pray that this is difficult child's wake up, grow up call! He has spent the last 3 days sore, weepy, apologetic and appears to be doing some of his own stressing.
I am back and have missed youguys.
Have been MIA for a little bit. Lost my job so I am stressing about getting another one.
difficult child began to hang with one of his "friends" that we do not care for about a week ago. Sunday night, he said he was staying over there. I do not know if he did or if they were out all night or what. At 9:00 Monday morning, I got a call from the manager of a windshield repair shop in town stating that my son had been in a car accident and ended up in his parking lot and that he was being taken via ambulance to the hospital. I called husband and he met me there-then I got a call and the guy told me that either difficult child or his passenger ("friend") complained of severe pain and they decided to take them to The medication which is the Truama Center in the nearby larger city. We raced over there. PANIC!!! When I got in to see him, they told me he had 7 stitches in his forehead and that he was so combative with them that they tied him down and heavily sedated him and put a breathing tube down his throat and hooked him to a respirator so that they could get all the tests (cat scan, x rays, etc). He looked near death to me. They said the "friend" told them they had been drinking and had taken Xanax!
Word travels fast in our town and within 2 hours, the waiting room was full of kids who were waiting along with us. The xrays and cat scan came back with no bad results. He has a mild concussion and the stitches. The kids were all allowed to see him in the state I saw him in, complete with respirator and I think it opened some eyes.
He has admitted to drinking, not the Xanax, he did say the "friend" takes Xanax regularly, which I had heard through the grapevine. Now, in our town they do things crazy. The accident reports says "obviously intoxicated" and that he hit a curb, over corrected sending him across the dotted line, over corrected again and jumped the curb into the parking lot of the windshield place, hit a parked car (totalled) and knocked it into the car parked next to it". Oh yeah, he REALLY pulled a boner! We have yet to hear anything from the police. He has not been charged or arrested. I have a friend who used to work for the police dept. who checked and said the officer on the scene has been off duty for the last few days and is back on today and that he will probably call today. difficult child is at work in the nearby larger city and they will not cross state line to arrest him. She says that if they call, they will ask me to have him come in after work and they will arrest him then if they are going to charge him. She says if he does not call by 5:00 today, not to worry, just to call city hall Monday to see when his court date is. His driver's license is missing and she says it is probably attached to his ticket and he won't get it back until he goes to court. So we have been waiting for the other shoe to drop. You would think, if they wanted him, thaey would come get him, no matter who is off duty!
We have $$ in savings put aside for difficult child that he is not aware of. husband had a long talk with him and cried and told him not to ever do this again. He took him to see his totalled car, which by the way, caught fire also! difficult child, I believe, has gotten a wake up call. husband told him this was his only wake up call. He told him that he was going to purchase the old beater next door for him to drive and that ONLY because he has a job and needs it to be able to pay his fines, he will bail him out if he is arrested. He told him that he will be lien holder on the title to the car and that difficult child is to pay $100 per month car payment and will pay back the bail. He will have to obtain insurance which will cost him out the ying yang and that "friend" is outta the picture. He told him that if he is seen or suspected of being with this kid that he will repossess the car and throw him out for good. If he is late with payments there will be 15% added to the balance and if payment is missed, the car will be locked down in the garage with the club on it until caught up. He told him that if there is ever anything else that comes up that involves drugs and/or alcohol, he will be thrown out for good. This has been typed up, signed and notarized. difficult child told me that it freaked him out and touched his heart to see husband cry. Additionally, husband asked him how he would feel if the car he hit had been my car and I had been in it. His answer was that he would wanna hurt whoever did it. husband told him to think on that every time anyone offers him something he knows he should not have. He also is ready to be arrested and get things moving. He has already been honest with his boss as to what happened and asked for cooperation when it comes to court dates and/or jail time.
His best friend (whom we love-great kid)) took a picture with his cell phone of him at the hospital and his car--he emailed it to his home computer and printed them out and brought them over last night and posted them on difficult child's bulletin board. He told difficult child that "he'd better be through with this S@#t, and leave the "friend" alone, or he was done with him"! difficult child and this kid have been like brothers over the last couple of years.
The "friend" is just one of those good kids that is so misguided, dad has drug/alcohol issues, mom has some of the same, step mother is trying, grandmother is a loon and spoils the kid rotten. The aunt yelled at me in the hospital and called difficult child names and said she would "whip his
" if she ever saw him again. I calmly told her that my son was fine, thanks for asking and that he did not hold her nephews's hand and force him to do anything and went straight to the security desk and asked that she be kept on the other side of the waiting room.This ladies and gents has been my week on top of being unemployed for the last 2 weeks! Please pray that this is difficult child's wake up, grow up call! He has spent the last 3 days sore, weepy, apologetic and appears to be doing some of his own stressing.
I am back and have missed youguys.
