Disappointed Mom, welcome to the forum. We are glad you are here, and you will receive lots of ideas and support. In all of the ideas, take what you like and leave the rest, in other words, do what works for you.
My thoughts: I don't like marijuana. I know it's legal in many states now, but I still don't like it. A lot of people, including my own son, can't smoke marijuana socially because he doesn't know when to stop. With any type of substance. I hear people talk about how marijuana makes people demotivated and lazy and slowly they stop taking care of their responsibilities and their lives get worse and worse. Is this the case with your daughter?
Something that is clear to me today: My house, my rules. If my children want to do things I don't agree with or approve of, they will have to do it somewhere else rather than my own house. I know when kids are underage (mine are now grown), it's not nearly as clear. What can you do if you set rules and then they break them? For most kids, taking away privileges and curtailing freedoms works. For others---like my son as a teen---those things didn't work.
If your daughter is over 18, and she is doing things in your home that are illegal and/or you don't approve of, that would be a deal breaker for me, in terms of her living there.
You are the only one who knows your situation so please take my thoughts as suggestions or things to think about. Please keep sharing, we are here for you.
I moved to United States four years ago with my two daughters 21 and25.they were a honor student, hard worker and artistic. my problem started when they got boyfriend .my younger daughter boyfrieds .her boyfriend stayed7 monthes in my house because i have told that he have a bad family.i prpvide everything for them and asked him to use this situation finish his study and find a job and save some money.he didn't work and I found out that he' is a smoker .he said its because of her health problem.he couldnt sleep at night(probably because he was Sleeping too much at the day time he didn't care so I kick him out then I find out that my daughter smokes .i cut all my support.she promiss me to quit .but she didn't.she it feels good and called me close minded also asked me to do some research to see weed not bad as i think .its a herbal and would be legalize next year .she thinks she Americanized.everybody who know my story asked me to kick her out .but i want to help her to be clean .its not the right wsy to live.they are part of mybody .i would appreciate if you give ma some idea.rhanks
I don't think I would kick her out for smoking weed, but she could move on to harder drugs, I would encourage her to get help, counsling , outpatient rehabs, aa meetings or na meetings..
well if she does not want to quit, jus don't enable her by giving her money., and PRAY for her, I have 2 addict sons, one is on Herion and the other is on anything he can get his hands on, and he is about to be homeless come tomarrow along with his girl friend and he threatens suicide everyday, all I can do is Pray for them and give it to GOD
