rejectedmom
New Member
Abbey, I have no advice to add but wanted you to know I hope you are feeling better soon. -RM
It's official...I'm depressed
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SearchingForRainbows
Active Member
Abbey,
I'm so sorry you're so depressed!!! I don't have any experience with the medication you've been prescribed. However, in my humble opinion, it sounds like it is worth a try. You can't go on living like this!!!
It's good that you got a referral to a psychiatric. My advice would be to start the drug and get an appointment ASAP. If the medication doesn't help, then I'm sure the psychiatric will prescribe something else for you.
I just want you to know I'm thinking about you and keeping all body parts crossed that you will start feeling better soon... :flower: WFEN
I'm so sorry you're so depressed!!! I don't have any experience with the medication you've been prescribed. However, in my humble opinion, it sounds like it is worth a try. You can't go on living like this!!!
It's good that you got a referral to a psychiatric. My advice would be to start the drug and get an appointment ASAP. If the medication doesn't help, then I'm sure the psychiatric will prescribe something else for you.
I just want you to know I'm thinking about you and keeping all body parts crossed that you will start feeling better soon... :flower: WFEN
Abbey
Spork Queen
Thanks for all the replies. I slept most of yesterday, which was greatly needed. I thought I could go into work today, but I think one more day of rest would be good. I am taking the Lexapro. It makes me a bit shaky and cloudy. Not sure how to describe it, butI don't feel clear. I'll give it some time to take affect.
Again, thanks for the replies.
Abbey
Again, thanks for the replies.
Abbey
witzend
Well-Known Member
Abbey, I'm so glad that you were able to mention this to your doctor. Try looking at the anti-depressant as a tool rather than a cure. It won't cure you. It can be a tool used to help you get to a better place. Like a hammer is used to drive a nail. A rock will do the job if it's all you have, but a hammer will do it better. The burden is still on you to drive the nail - or to feel better - it just makes it an easier job to get done.
As far as feeling out of control, you actually are out of control when your mind goes to that dark place. Maybe it doesn't feel that way because you are not taking anything in that contributes to it. But if your blood pressure was high, you'd take a pill to control it rather than let it kill you. Again, it's not a cure, just a tool that helps
I hope that you will give it a chance, and that if it helps you will remember that it helped and not give up on it because you feel better. That can make it less likely to help in the future.
As far as feeling out of control, you actually are out of control when your mind goes to that dark place. Maybe it doesn't feel that way because you are not taking anything in that contributes to it. But if your blood pressure was high, you'd take a pill to control it rather than let it kill you. Again, it's not a cure, just a tool that helps
I hope that you will give it a chance, and that if it helps you will remember that it helped and not give up on it because you feel better. That can make it less likely to help in the future.
Suz
(the future) MRS. GERE
Abbey, I've been out of town. I'm so sorry to hear how down you've been. I don't have any advice. We've talked about this before. I'm so glad you started taking the Lexapro and am interested to hear if it helps.
In the meantime, know that I am thinking of you and sending you lots of hugs.
Suz
In the meantime, know that I am thinking of you and sending you lots of hugs.
Suz
therealblacksheep
New Member
Abbey,
I don't visit this site much, but your post touched me.
I have had issues with depression from both sides (Being depressed and being around a depressed person you care very much about).
First: about the medications - YES, take them, and as was mentioned earlier, it will take some time before YOU notice the difference. Others around you will notice it sooner, but hey, we never see ourselves the way we really are. When I first took Zoloft, I was sick to my stomach for the first three days, and I almost went off of it, but on the fourth day, everything seemed "normal"...
My problems were still there, but I was then able to actually think about them and start to try figuring out how to deal with them. Before the Zoloft, I "thought" I was dealing with them, but really was only obsessing about them - not really doing anything.
After two weeks, I felt almost a hundred years younger! :wink: Well it seemed that way, anyway. Depression is VERY tiring.
Second: As was already suggested, do NOT make any life altering decisions until you are well balanced on the medication. From the outside: When my wife succumed to depression, she told me to get out, she threw me out, she had me arrested (Police HAVE to believe spousal abuse allegations, even if they are not true, or are witnessed to be false). Not because she didn't love me, but because she was confused. Depression can cause YOU to do things that you would never do, if you were in your right mind. That's the problem though... If your depressed, you might NOT be in your right mind.
There are many varieties of depression, and all come with different intensities... Try real hard not to make a mistake that you will regret.
If after your balanced on your medications, and are taking counselling, and still need to have your husband remove himself from your life, fine... My wife almost lost me, because of depression... she pushed me away so hard... (I'm stubborn, it didn't happen the way she wanted it to), and there were a LOT of hurt feelings because of it, but, when she COULD think straight, she did regret her actions... WE worked long and hard to overcome the hurt feelings (On both sides - when I'm mad I can say very hurtful things, too), but our marriage actually became stronger than it was before.
Third: Counselling - with a psycologist, family doctor, cleric, or even just a friend who has gone through depression, is JUST as important as the medications. The medications will give you a chance to deal with your problems (We all have problems - most depression is believed to be "Triggered" by stress - it may run in families but not all family members get it. Last I read, the verdict was still out on if the tendency of depression running in families have a genetic or an environmental root cause.), next you need to to organize your thoughts, and people being social animals, talking is the best way... HINT: Do NOT use a family member - we all care too deeply about our family to think rationally when we feel one of our own is getting hurt - using the services of those knowledgable in the problems involved but not emotionally involved improves your efforts... I've tried it both ways, and talked to others who have as well, and family is NOT the way to go...
Fourth: You may have issues with the prescribed medications, consistancy of effect, side effects, etc. TELL YOUR DOCTOR! There are MANY Anti-Depressents, and one of them will "Level" you, while causing the least disruption to your life. If after four weeks, YOU see NO change, contact your doctor about a change in medications. If you see SOME change, the dosage may be wrong.
Good luck! Wishing you strength!
I don't visit this site much, but your post touched me.
I have had issues with depression from both sides (Being depressed and being around a depressed person you care very much about).
First: about the medications - YES, take them, and as was mentioned earlier, it will take some time before YOU notice the difference. Others around you will notice it sooner, but hey, we never see ourselves the way we really are. When I first took Zoloft, I was sick to my stomach for the first three days, and I almost went off of it, but on the fourth day, everything seemed "normal"...
My problems were still there, but I was then able to actually think about them and start to try figuring out how to deal with them. Before the Zoloft, I "thought" I was dealing with them, but really was only obsessing about them - not really doing anything.
After two weeks, I felt almost a hundred years younger! :wink: Well it seemed that way, anyway. Depression is VERY tiring.
Second: As was already suggested, do NOT make any life altering decisions until you are well balanced on the medication. From the outside: When my wife succumed to depression, she told me to get out, she threw me out, she had me arrested (Police HAVE to believe spousal abuse allegations, even if they are not true, or are witnessed to be false). Not because she didn't love me, but because she was confused. Depression can cause YOU to do things that you would never do, if you were in your right mind. That's the problem though... If your depressed, you might NOT be in your right mind.
There are many varieties of depression, and all come with different intensities... Try real hard not to make a mistake that you will regret.
If after your balanced on your medications, and are taking counselling, and still need to have your husband remove himself from your life, fine... My wife almost lost me, because of depression... she pushed me away so hard... (I'm stubborn, it didn't happen the way she wanted it to), and there were a LOT of hurt feelings because of it, but, when she COULD think straight, she did regret her actions... WE worked long and hard to overcome the hurt feelings (On both sides - when I'm mad I can say very hurtful things, too), but our marriage actually became stronger than it was before.
Third: Counselling - with a psycologist, family doctor, cleric, or even just a friend who has gone through depression, is JUST as important as the medications. The medications will give you a chance to deal with your problems (We all have problems - most depression is believed to be "Triggered" by stress - it may run in families but not all family members get it. Last I read, the verdict was still out on if the tendency of depression running in families have a genetic or an environmental root cause.), next you need to to organize your thoughts, and people being social animals, talking is the best way... HINT: Do NOT use a family member - we all care too deeply about our family to think rationally when we feel one of our own is getting hurt - using the services of those knowledgable in the problems involved but not emotionally involved improves your efforts... I've tried it both ways, and talked to others who have as well, and family is NOT the way to go...
Fourth: You may have issues with the prescribed medications, consistancy of effect, side effects, etc. TELL YOUR DOCTOR! There are MANY Anti-Depressents, and one of them will "Level" you, while causing the least disruption to your life. If after four weeks, YOU see NO change, contact your doctor about a change in medications. If you see SOME change, the dosage may be wrong.
Good luck! Wishing you strength!
witzend
Well-Known Member
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">My problems were still there, but I was then able to actually think about them and start to try figuring out how to deal with them. Before the Zoloft, I "thought" I was dealing with them, but really was only obsessing about them - not really doing anything. </div></div>
Very well put.
Very well put.
Abbey
Spork Queen
Gosh...I so appreciate the replies. I've been the strong person in our family for so many many years. This is so foreign to me, but something that has been going on for years that I chose not to deal with. Just suck it up and go with the flow.
I've been in bed for the last of 4 out of 6 days. I just can't seem to even open my eyes. It's emabarrasing, but going to the doctor is at least a start. I now need to encounter the effects of these drugs...which are quite intense. He said 5-10 days until I adjust to them. I will continue, but am probably quite a mess in the process.
And...I've got family coming in on Friday. :smile: I'll just put on the happy face.
Abbey
I've been in bed for the last of 4 out of 6 days. I just can't seem to even open my eyes. It's emabarrasing, but going to the doctor is at least a start. I now need to encounter the effects of these drugs...which are quite intense. He said 5-10 days until I adjust to them. I will continue, but am probably quite a mess in the process.
And...I've got family coming in on Friday. :smile: I'll just put on the happy face.
Abbey
