Been quite awhile again since I checked in.Lots of the same stories but many new names. For those who may remember us difficult child is now 24 with a 16 month old daughter.
No issues with heavy drug abuse in a very long time before the baby was born but still struggling to make up the "lost years".
He is inconsistent still but overall a polite, helpful, happy and good son. All the drug abuse adhd etc. has left him far behind but he is working to get up to speed. Only 2 credits left to get grade 12 and talk of furthering education.
He seems to have given up his addiction of "females" and settled with one finally. It has been a few months of this relationship and considering it was a new one every couple of days for years and years since he was 12 this is a Major Improvement. He acts somewhat immature with her but she calls him on it and he is struggling but improving to be a "good" boyfriend and working his way through the trust issues.He at least is realizing his attitude when it becomes immature and addresses it.
The drama, court rooms, police et al are of the past although we still have 6 months of parole left to complete he has basically proved to them he is well and he only has to attend monthly meetings. If I never see a cop, courtroom, jail again it will be too soon.
Life is far from perfect yet as we still have our minor "slip & falls" out there behaviours that come intermittently every few months (complete meltdowns) but he is apologetic and really strives to make it right. He seems to know when it is coming now and I think it is some sort of mental thing. He will not see a doctor though but then again I can't make him at this age I guess he will come to whats what on his own.
To all still struggling, do not give up!!
As long as there is breath there is hope.
No issues with heavy drug abuse in a very long time before the baby was born but still struggling to make up the "lost years".
He is inconsistent still but overall a polite, helpful, happy and good son. All the drug abuse adhd etc. has left him far behind but he is working to get up to speed. Only 2 credits left to get grade 12 and talk of furthering education.
He seems to have given up his addiction of "females" and settled with one finally. It has been a few months of this relationship and considering it was a new one every couple of days for years and years since he was 12 this is a Major Improvement. He acts somewhat immature with her but she calls him on it and he is struggling but improving to be a "good" boyfriend and working his way through the trust issues.He at least is realizing his attitude when it becomes immature and addresses it.
The drama, court rooms, police et al are of the past although we still have 6 months of parole left to complete he has basically proved to them he is well and he only has to attend monthly meetings. If I never see a cop, courtroom, jail again it will be too soon.
Life is far from perfect yet as we still have our minor "slip & falls" out there behaviours that come intermittently every few months (complete meltdowns) but he is apologetic and really strives to make it right. He seems to know when it is coming now and I think it is some sort of mental thing. He will not see a doctor though but then again I can't make him at this age I guess he will come to whats what on his own.
To all still struggling, do not give up!!
As long as there is breath there is hope.
