muttmeister
Well-Known Member
This is a general rant and it's probably going to be long so if you have no patience or you're already burned out, you may as well skip this.
I haven't posted about either difficult child for awhile. Older one is still doing great: that's the one bright spot in my life. He just started a new job and they liked him so well at the old one they're letting him stay on part time so they can pay him for his sick days (which they're not supposed to do). He is getting married October 1. I have a wedding quilt and 5 little girls' dresses to make and I haven't even been able to get started. I do have the stuff for the quilt but it is lying in my dining room and I look at it several times a day and go on by.
Younger difficult child and his wife had a big fight a couple of weeks ago and she moved out and took the kids. Right now the kids are staying with her white-trash mother. I don't mean to be a (insert the name of a female dog) here, but the woman has warrants out for her in at least 3 states, doesn't work, doesn't bathe, and is dumber that the neighbor's pet goat. difficult child's wife wanted to move one town over and get a job and live there. He offered her the house and the car and he (we) would continue to pay all of the utilities, etc. but she wasn't going to do that. Finally she agreed to move back into their house (it is paid for) if he'd buy a new front door(theirs is broken), put in a new toilet (it needs it), buy a new air conditioner(old one of those broke too), and take out the wood burning stove and put in a propane stove for winter. I think we will do it because that means the three grandkids will be around the corner from me where I can keep an eye on them and be somewhat involved in their lives. But guess who will get to pay for all of that as difficult child's job doesn't even pay the bills? He is planning to leave the area (with her brother) and look for a job elsewhere. He may end up where his dad is, which would be a good thing. I think he might be able to get a decent job there. But it is a huge mess right now.
Last night he took my cell phone because his was not working and he rode his motorcycle to a town about an hour away. I got a call this morning; he lost my cell phone somewhere along the road. Not only will I have to get a new phone, I have lost all of my contacts. Yes, I should have backed them up someplace but I didn't. So .... older son just got a new phone yesterday with a new number so I can't call him as I didn't write down his number; I just saved it in my phone. And I don't have long distance on my land line so I can't call much of anybody till I get a new phone anyway. It's a good thing I'll get paid tomorrow but all of that money was already spent so it will take some juggling to take care of that problem.
difficult child 2 and his wife's brother have been staying with me since all of this happened. I am used to living alone. Having them around is driving me nuts. PLUS, I sit in the heat half of the time and never run the air conditioner at night as I don't feel I can afford a huge air conditioner bill. They have had the air conditioner in their room on continuously since they came. I have told them about it; I go in and shut it off when they aren't here, but I go back in and they have it on again. I don't mind it being on when it is hot but they even had it on this weekend when it was cool. They leave their dirty clothes and dirty dishes lying around even though I have complained. And I have told them not to smoke in my house but when I'm not home they do anyway. Then when I come home and smell it they try to tell me they didn't. I guess they think I was born yesterday.
difficult child 2 has two things he is supposed to do for me: look at my brakes so I can tell my ex what to order to fix them next weekend (ex lives 2 hours from here) and erect a garden tent type thing that was supposed to be put up for Memorial Day. He acts like I am in the wrong when I complain that these things are not done. I'd like to smack him one.
On top of it all, my almost 96 year old mother is getting really forgetful and a little confused. I don't know how much longer she will be able to live alone. She can't live with me (all of my bedrooms are upstairs; besides we'd probably kill each other). I'd like to get her into the independent living facility in town but they are expensive. She does have nursing home insurance but I don't think it will pay for the independent living facility. I have an appointment with her financial guy on Monday to see if we can get at some of her money. She has some but it's all tied up in long term investments so I don't know what we can get out without paying a huge penalty. The independent living place does have a waiting list anyway so even if I put her on the list, who knows if she will ever get in? She has said several times she thinks maybe she needs help but when I suggest this she is going to go ballistic. She is a crier: I hate that. When somebody cries around me I want to whack them upside the head. You can yell and curse and throw things and I can handle it but when you start to bawl I want to kill you. I think it is from living with her all of those years. Anytime anything didn't suit her or she didn't get her way, she'd bawl. I HATE THAT.
I am supposed to go see a friend next weekend but with the phone, the divorce, my mother, and the brakes on my car needing fixed, I may not get to go. Just one more thing on the list.
All in all I try to remember that both of my kids are healthy, I have three cute, smart grandkids, I have a roof over my head, I collect my retirement and social security every month, and life should be good. BUT, right now is definitely not a good time.
I haven't posted about either difficult child for awhile. Older one is still doing great: that's the one bright spot in my life. He just started a new job and they liked him so well at the old one they're letting him stay on part time so they can pay him for his sick days (which they're not supposed to do). He is getting married October 1. I have a wedding quilt and 5 little girls' dresses to make and I haven't even been able to get started. I do have the stuff for the quilt but it is lying in my dining room and I look at it several times a day and go on by.
Younger difficult child and his wife had a big fight a couple of weeks ago and she moved out and took the kids. Right now the kids are staying with her white-trash mother. I don't mean to be a (insert the name of a female dog) here, but the woman has warrants out for her in at least 3 states, doesn't work, doesn't bathe, and is dumber that the neighbor's pet goat. difficult child's wife wanted to move one town over and get a job and live there. He offered her the house and the car and he (we) would continue to pay all of the utilities, etc. but she wasn't going to do that. Finally she agreed to move back into their house (it is paid for) if he'd buy a new front door(theirs is broken), put in a new toilet (it needs it), buy a new air conditioner(old one of those broke too), and take out the wood burning stove and put in a propane stove for winter. I think we will do it because that means the three grandkids will be around the corner from me where I can keep an eye on them and be somewhat involved in their lives. But guess who will get to pay for all of that as difficult child's job doesn't even pay the bills? He is planning to leave the area (with her brother) and look for a job elsewhere. He may end up where his dad is, which would be a good thing. I think he might be able to get a decent job there. But it is a huge mess right now.
Last night he took my cell phone because his was not working and he rode his motorcycle to a town about an hour away. I got a call this morning; he lost my cell phone somewhere along the road.
Not only will I have to get a new phone, I have lost all of my contacts. Yes, I should have backed them up someplace but I didn't. So .... older son just got a new phone yesterday with a new number so I can't call him as I didn't write down his number; I just saved it in my phone. And I don't have long distance on my land line so I can't call much of anybody till I get a new phone anyway. It's a good thing I'll get paid tomorrow but all of that money was already spent so it will take some juggling to take care of that problem.difficult child 2 and his wife's brother have been staying with me since all of this happened. I am used to living alone. Having them around is driving me nuts. PLUS, I sit in the heat half of the time and never run the air conditioner at night as I don't feel I can afford a huge air conditioner bill. They have had the air conditioner in their room on continuously since they came. I have told them about it; I go in and shut it off when they aren't here, but I go back in and they have it on again. I don't mind it being on when it is hot but they even had it on this weekend when it was cool. They leave their dirty clothes and dirty dishes lying around even though I have complained. And I have told them not to smoke in my house but when I'm not home they do anyway. Then when I come home and smell it they try to tell me they didn't. I guess they think I was born yesterday.
difficult child 2 has two things he is supposed to do for me: look at my brakes so I can tell my ex what to order to fix them next weekend (ex lives 2 hours from here) and erect a garden tent type thing that was supposed to be put up for Memorial Day. He acts like I am in the wrong when I complain that these things are not done. I'd like to smack him one.
On top of it all, my almost 96 year old mother is getting really forgetful and a little confused. I don't know how much longer she will be able to live alone. She can't live with me (all of my bedrooms are upstairs; besides we'd probably kill each other). I'd like to get her into the independent living facility in town but they are expensive. She does have nursing home insurance but I don't think it will pay for the independent living facility. I have an appointment with her financial guy on Monday to see if we can get at some of her money. She has some but it's all tied up in long term investments so I don't know what we can get out without paying a huge penalty. The independent living place does have a waiting list anyway so even if I put her on the list, who knows if she will ever get in? She has said several times she thinks maybe she needs help but when I suggest this she is going to go ballistic. She is a crier: I hate that. When somebody cries around me I want to whack them upside the head. You can yell and curse and throw things and I can handle it but when you start to bawl I want to kill you. I think it is from living with her all of those years. Anytime anything didn't suit her or she didn't get her way, she'd bawl. I HATE THAT.
I am supposed to go see a friend next weekend but with the phone, the divorce, my mother, and the brakes on my car needing fixed, I may not get to go. Just one more thing on the list.
All in all I try to remember that both of my kids are healthy, I have three cute, smart grandkids, I have a roof over my head, I collect my retirement and social security every month, and life should be good. BUT, right now is definitely not a good time.
