We met difficult child today to pick up her car from the shop. While we were there, we went grocery shopping for her weekly supplies. husband and I invited her to go out to eat with us but she said no because she had other plans. As we were shopping she mentioned that she had a date tonight. It was rather strange for her to say that because she and her loser boyfriend (AKA Peter Pan) never go "out." They usually go to his house and he plays video games while she watches television.
So I asked her if the date was with Peter Pan and she said no. She was going out with a guy in the halfway house. She asked me if I thought it was a bad idea for her to go out with someone who was in recovery. I said no if he truly was in recovery and she said that he was. His drug of choice was cocaine. Yikes!
So while I would love for her to move on from Peter Pan and their off again on again relationship of 8 years which is going nowhere, this is not someone I would have picked out. I asked her how long this new guy had been at the halfway house and she said one month. I know that people in AA/NA are encouraged to not start new relationships for the first year so this would be a double no-no.
Of course, she still claims to love Peter Pan and has no plans to tell him about her date tonight.
I wish she hadn't "shared" any of this with me. It's nice that she wants to tell me things but I really don't want to be involved in her love life.
On a good note, she was very happy and seemed very clear-headed. There is a peacefulness about her that is new. She has another job interview on Monday.
So . . overall a good report despite some worries.
~Kathy
So I asked her if the date was with Peter Pan and she said no. She was going out with a guy in the halfway house. She asked me if I thought it was a bad idea for her to go out with someone who was in recovery. I said no if he truly was in recovery and she said that he was. His drug of choice was cocaine. Yikes!
So while I would love for her to move on from Peter Pan and their off again on again relationship of 8 years which is going nowhere, this is not someone I would have picked out. I asked her how long this new guy had been at the halfway house and she said one month. I know that people in AA/NA are encouraged to not start new relationships for the first year so this would be a double no-no.
Of course, she still claims to love Peter Pan and has no plans to tell him about her date tonight.
I wish she hadn't "shared" any of this with me. It's nice that she wants to tell me things but I really don't want to be involved in her love life.
On a good note, she was very happy and seemed very clear-headed. There is a peacefulness about her that is new. She has another job interview on Monday.
So . . overall a good report despite some worries.
~Kathy