My nerves are a bit rattled. Our Difficult Child might be a tiny bit different than others here, but there is much similarity too. She is adopted, in her mid twenties and has the diagnosis of bipolar. When she was in elem. school she suffered from a brain aneurysm, which required brain surgery. She has attention deficits, is gullible, a little peculiar, can be likable, often ungrateful (something I have often noticed about difficult child's in general) , but almost always has a kind heart. She has done much better in terms of speaking to us with respect in recent years, but there is that fairly large and consistent ungrateful part of it.
A few years ago, someone talked her into doing something illegal. It was insane. She managed to get out of prosecution, I think the prosecutor, knowing she was duped, felt sorry for her. We just had to pay some relatively big money to seal those charges. Did she thank us for this...NO!
A few weeks ago, she got into an argument with some very very very very Difficult Child and this girl physically abused our daughter right in public!!! Can't go into details, but it was awful. It took me awhile just to process it. She has hurt our daughter before. We are trying to get an extended restraining order, but it's been difficult. Difficult Child doesn't fully understand (I guess) the technicalities. Criminal charges have been discussed.
Our daughter is doing fairly well with it all, but the other side is fighting the charges like crazy (I guess when you have a guilty client, you get super aggressive to try to be intimidating).
I guess I should feel fortunate that at least our Difficult Child doesn't beat the crxp our of people, but I'm saddened that she befriends such horrible people and that she doesn't always appreciate what good parents she has.
My parents NEVER in a million years would have stuck by me during all of this craziness.
Why does she associate with horrible people? And why is she not more grateful to mom and dad? Does it ever get better? Can it get better? Well, I guess these two things are typical difficult child "things." It is just so very sad. And I have days that I'm bone tired. Thank you for letting me vent.
A few years ago, someone talked her into doing something illegal. It was insane. She managed to get out of prosecution, I think the prosecutor, knowing she was duped, felt sorry for her. We just had to pay some relatively big money to seal those charges. Did she thank us for this...NO!
A few weeks ago, she got into an argument with some very very very very Difficult Child and this girl physically abused our daughter right in public!!! Can't go into details, but it was awful. It took me awhile just to process it. She has hurt our daughter before. We are trying to get an extended restraining order, but it's been difficult. Difficult Child doesn't fully understand (I guess) the technicalities. Criminal charges have been discussed.
Our daughter is doing fairly well with it all, but the other side is fighting the charges like crazy (I guess when you have a guilty client, you get super aggressive to try to be intimidating).
I guess I should feel fortunate that at least our Difficult Child doesn't beat the crxp our of people, but I'm saddened that she befriends such horrible people and that she doesn't always appreciate what good parents she has.
My parents NEVER in a million years would have stuck by me during all of this craziness.
Why does she associate with horrible people? And why is she not more grateful to mom and dad? Does it ever get better? Can it get better? Well, I guess these two things are typical difficult child "things." It is just so very sad. And I have days that I'm bone tired. Thank you for letting me vent.