trolli
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Hi
I posted a while back about my daughter who has a substance abuse problem (mostly alcohol) as well as some undiagnosed psyc issues (possibly borderline )anxiety,etc.Her history is extensive,alot of which I detailed in a previous thread.Some of you were so kind and welcoming to me and I'm at a point,I simply have no where to turn,not much support.I just returned from a trip 2 hrs from our home,to pick her up from the police station in a beach town,where she was sexually assaulted by an aquaintance.A friend drove me,as my husband refused to go.This incident is the SECOND time this has occured,the last time about a,year and a half ago.She has multiple dui's and relies on "friends" to shuttle her around socially and me to work(when she keeps,a job,which isn't long usually),court,probation,etc.I am completely numb at this point and feel that I have very little left to give to her.She is completely destroying my marriage,my health and this,family.It feels hopeless.I know that if she was truly raped that she is,a victim,but I cannot help but feel that she puts,herself in these situations by over drinking and at times around people she barely knows,in her attempt to maintain a social life.She has a substance abuse counselor that I'm not sure has really helped that much.She refuses rehab and not sure the court's will order it on her pending final dui.We paid an attorney for the past one and now this one and regret it,because I think she needs to be ordered to treatment and HER goal is a conviction with a provisional license.We are absolutely done with paying anymore legal fees.She will stay in jail.We left her there for a week on the last dui,and honestly wish we had left her longer.It's SO hard.
I posted a while back about my daughter who has a substance abuse problem (mostly alcohol) as well as some undiagnosed psyc issues (possibly borderline )anxiety,etc.Her history is extensive,alot of which I detailed in a previous thread.Some of you were so kind and welcoming to me and I'm at a point,I simply have no where to turn,not much support.I just returned from a trip 2 hrs from our home,to pick her up from the police station in a beach town,where she was sexually assaulted by an aquaintance.A friend drove me,as my husband refused to go.This incident is the SECOND time this has occured,the last time about a,year and a half ago.She has multiple dui's and relies on "friends" to shuttle her around socially and me to work(when she keeps,a job,which isn't long usually),court,probation,etc.I am completely numb at this point and feel that I have very little left to give to her.She is completely destroying my marriage,my health and this,family.It feels hopeless.I know that if she was truly raped that she is,a victim,but I cannot help but feel that she puts,herself in these situations by over drinking and at times around people she barely knows,in her attempt to maintain a social life.She has a substance abuse counselor that I'm not sure has really helped that much.She refuses rehab and not sure the court's will order it on her pending final dui.We paid an attorney for the past one and now this one and regret it,because I think she needs to be ordered to treatment and HER goal is a conviction with a provisional license.We are absolutely done with paying anymore legal fees.She will stay in jail.We left her there for a week on the last dui,and honestly wish we had left her longer.It's SO hard.