hearts and roses
Mind Reader
for difficult child to blather on and on about how I messed up her life, how my H is the devil incarnate, and how her biodad is a hero/victim.
Ugh, just shoot me now.
She's been hesitantly telling me about this new website she's created a profile on called, www.mylot.com, where in people can create their own topics and/or comment on other's...it's pretty much an anything goes public forum, minus cursewords.
So, difficult child created a post entitled (are you ready?) "I'm 18 and a 16 year old divorce still gets me down~"
Out of pure curiosity last night I went there and she must have left herself signed in so it opened to her homepage and that's where I saw her post...and the posts of others who she hoodwinked into believing her bogus version of her [charmed] life..."oh you poor thing" and "I'm so sorry for what you're going through" from [not so] perfect strangers!!!! She went on and on that "yeah, maybe my dad was a cocaine snorting, pot smoking loser who preferred fishing and hunting over spending an evening with his wife and children, but my mom was wrong to just leave him. Just because at that time my mom had to go to the church for food and go on welfare, she shouldn't have left him like that. He's much more mature now and he does still smoke pot, but not as much as he did. And I feel sorry for my dad because my mom fell in love with and married his best friend!!! I know you can't control who you fall in love with but why did she have to pick him?? I hate my stepdad because he's always yelling at me and it scares me and it's always been like that. And he controls my mom, he bends her to his will and I don't like that" blah blah blah...and on and on it went.
I felt physically ill reading through it. Not only is it completely inconsistent and untrue, but her entire perception is skewed - despite numerous discussions both in and out of the counselor's office. I give up. She's never going to get it right and it's hers to work out. I cannot believe that she will hang on to this when instead she could be out there making a life for herself. I mean, WTH?
Some of the responses were mensa-mens and one was right on - that poster told her she should forgive and move on. If she's that miserable at home, get a job and figure out a way to move out. Hooray! Some common sense.
My children lived a very charmed life, considering that at the time of our separation and divorce the odds were stacked against them. They've had every need and most wants met, always had healthy food for the taking, cars, sports, annual family vacations, you name it, they've had the best of it. And while my H is scary when he yells, it could be because he hardly ever does it, so when he does, it's LOUD. But too bad. And you know what else?? It's only been since difficult child turned 15 and all he// broke loose. It's only been HER and since she started pushing the envelope and lying to us. So, it's only been 3 years and it hasn't all been miserable. My H taught her how to ride a bike, went on multiple school field trips, fixed her car, helped with HW, and went to every father-daughter dance from kindergarten through 6th grade. I mean, he's BEEN THERE for her. But she chooses to forget all that, right?
In her post, she makes me sound like Edith Bunker and him like Attila the Hun - it ain't so!!! Why does my easy child have a COMPLETELY OPPOSITE perception of our home growing up?? Why? difficult child even mentioned that in her post and wonders how her sister can "ignore everything" - ahem, there is NOTHING to ignore except the way that difficult child terrorized our home.
I'm just so annoyed, upset, and thank God difficult child is at her dad's this week. I wish she'd stay there.
Ugh, just shoot me now.
She's been hesitantly telling me about this new website she's created a profile on called, www.mylot.com, where in people can create their own topics and/or comment on other's...it's pretty much an anything goes public forum, minus cursewords.
So, difficult child created a post entitled (are you ready?) "I'm 18 and a 16 year old divorce still gets me down~"
Out of pure curiosity last night I went there and she must have left herself signed in so it opened to her homepage and that's where I saw her post...and the posts of others who she hoodwinked into believing her bogus version of her [charmed] life..."oh you poor thing" and "I'm so sorry for what you're going through" from [not so] perfect strangers!!!! She went on and on that "yeah, maybe my dad was a cocaine snorting, pot smoking loser who preferred fishing and hunting over spending an evening with his wife and children, but my mom was wrong to just leave him. Just because at that time my mom had to go to the church for food and go on welfare, she shouldn't have left him like that. He's much more mature now and he does still smoke pot, but not as much as he did. And I feel sorry for my dad because my mom fell in love with and married his best friend!!! I know you can't control who you fall in love with but why did she have to pick him?? I hate my stepdad because he's always yelling at me and it scares me and it's always been like that. And he controls my mom, he bends her to his will and I don't like that" blah blah blah...and on and on it went.
I felt physically ill reading through it. Not only is it completely inconsistent and untrue, but her entire perception is skewed - despite numerous discussions both in and out of the counselor's office. I give up. She's never going to get it right and it's hers to work out. I cannot believe that she will hang on to this when instead she could be out there making a life for herself. I mean, WTH?
Some of the responses were mensa-mens and one was right on - that poster told her she should forgive and move on. If she's that miserable at home, get a job and figure out a way to move out. Hooray! Some common sense.
My children lived a very charmed life, considering that at the time of our separation and divorce the odds were stacked against them. They've had every need and most wants met, always had healthy food for the taking, cars, sports, annual family vacations, you name it, they've had the best of it. And while my H is scary when he yells, it could be because he hardly ever does it, so when he does, it's LOUD. But too bad. And you know what else?? It's only been since difficult child turned 15 and all he// broke loose. It's only been HER and since she started pushing the envelope and lying to us. So, it's only been 3 years and it hasn't all been miserable. My H taught her how to ride a bike, went on multiple school field trips, fixed her car, helped with HW, and went to every father-daughter dance from kindergarten through 6th grade. I mean, he's BEEN THERE for her. But she chooses to forget all that, right?
In her post, she makes me sound like Edith Bunker and him like Attila the Hun - it ain't so!!! Why does my easy child have a COMPLETELY OPPOSITE perception of our home growing up?? Why? difficult child even mentioned that in her post and wonders how her sister can "ignore everything" - ahem, there is NOTHING to ignore except the way that difficult child terrorized our home.
I'm just so annoyed, upset, and thank God difficult child is at her dad's this week. I wish she'd stay there.
