My daughter is in the military, and is seperated from her husband. He will be bringing their son out to where she is stationed til next April, when she is deployed.
To protect her (she is seeing a military lawyer), I had some questions. First, if she puts our names down as her replacements while she is gone for her son, so her soon to be ex husband cannot pull any horrible stunts while she is gone, like full custody would it work? We have already in the last 8 months personally , adn finacialy supported him 100%. I dont think my sister in law would pull anything , cause with-o us he would have never made it on his own to take care of grandson. I have alot of pple that could attest to that. Secondly, My sister in law was in the hospital a few months ago, and there is 500.00 in bills left over to pay, that her insurance didnt pay. I have paid a portion of it, and he has not paid any of it. He is not checked in to the finances mentally. He acknowledges it, but doesnt do anything about it. So my daughter says leave it alon, dont pay those bills. If I pay her half ( she will reimburse ), how do we make him accountable for his half. The bills some say his name but the majority says her names, adn stupid enough has her maiden name on it, and her military insurance is in her married name. Go figure that.
On another note, my difficult child son is doing well. He and his wife have their own place they are renting, adn both are working. Thier son is flourishing.
As for his children by his ex fiance, we have had no contact with them since the first of July. We have decided even though she is in contempt we are not going to court. There is no sure thing that she wont do this on a yrly basis costing us money. We have contact with her Dad, adn will use him as a laison for gifts at special holidays and events. In the meantime , rumour has it she is now pregnant by her controlling boyfriend. I maybe wrong, but I dont see her marrying him either.
Been reading posts, some frustrating, and some good.
TTYL,
Jennifer
To protect her (she is seeing a military lawyer), I had some questions. First, if she puts our names down as her replacements while she is gone for her son, so her soon to be ex husband cannot pull any horrible stunts while she is gone, like full custody would it work? We have already in the last 8 months personally , adn finacialy supported him 100%. I dont think my sister in law would pull anything , cause with-o us he would have never made it on his own to take care of grandson. I have alot of pple that could attest to that. Secondly, My sister in law was in the hospital a few months ago, and there is 500.00 in bills left over to pay, that her insurance didnt pay. I have paid a portion of it, and he has not paid any of it. He is not checked in to the finances mentally. He acknowledges it, but doesnt do anything about it. So my daughter says leave it alon, dont pay those bills. If I pay her half ( she will reimburse ), how do we make him accountable for his half. The bills some say his name but the majority says her names, adn stupid enough has her maiden name on it, and her military insurance is in her married name. Go figure that.
On another note, my difficult child son is doing well. He and his wife have their own place they are renting, adn both are working. Thier son is flourishing.
As for his children by his ex fiance, we have had no contact with them since the first of July. We have decided even though she is in contempt we are not going to court. There is no sure thing that she wont do this on a yrly basis costing us money. We have contact with her Dad, adn will use him as a laison for gifts at special holidays and events. In the meantime , rumour has it she is now pregnant by her controlling boyfriend. I maybe wrong, but I dont see her marrying him either.
Been reading posts, some frustrating, and some good.
TTYL,
Jennifer
