amazeofgrace
A maze of Grace - that about sums it up
welcome, sorry I am not very talkative 2night both my difficult child's are ripping me to shreads as I type, I feel like the little dinosaur that the 2 t-rex's are fighting over
New to site--an ODD house
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Allan-Matlem
Active Member
Hi,
it is not easy , it is a process but when we become more emotionally empowered and see things in a different light , we cope better and become a source of joy happiness , music , dance , hope etc - it is so important that your spouse sees that you are coping and happy , it relaxes and one stops looking for the quick fix or consequence that will do the trick. We have to look beyond the big incidents , meltdowns , ride them out and get back on track. The important stuff is the chatting , dialog , the dynamic that you would have with a friend because we when talk or rather listen and direct conversations with questions we promote so many skills , perpective taking and empathy etc and of course build relationship and trust.
check the video clips here http://www.naomialdort.com/lectures.html - based a lot on the The Work - Byron Katie http://www.thework.com/index.asp
The work for us is not to make war on reality . When we accept reality , we become emotionally liberated to be creative ' working with our children'. Working with children in my humble opinion means understanding how they perceive the world , how they perceive our responses, we are dealing with perceptions.
Allan
it is not easy , it is a process but when we become more emotionally empowered and see things in a different light , we cope better and become a source of joy happiness , music , dance , hope etc - it is so important that your spouse sees that you are coping and happy , it relaxes and one stops looking for the quick fix or consequence that will do the trick. We have to look beyond the big incidents , meltdowns , ride them out and get back on track. The important stuff is the chatting , dialog , the dynamic that you would have with a friend because we when talk or rather listen and direct conversations with questions we promote so many skills , perpective taking and empathy etc and of course build relationship and trust.
check the video clips here http://www.naomialdort.com/lectures.html - based a lot on the The Work - Byron Katie http://www.thework.com/index.asp
The work for us is not to make war on reality . When we accept reality , we become emotionally liberated to be creative ' working with our children'. Working with children in my humble opinion means understanding how they perceive the world , how they perceive our responses, we are dealing with perceptions.
Allan
Allan-Matlem
Active Member
Hi,
I spoke about the importance of seeing things from the child's perspective , how he perceives things - this applies both to learning both formal and informal /socio -moral learning.
I read an article which talks about the importance of understanding the child's perception
"It's Not What We Teach; It's What They Learn," Education Week, September 10, 2008
http://www.alfiekohn.org/teaching/edweek/inwwt.htm
Allan
I spoke about the importance of seeing things from the child's perspective , how he perceives things - this applies both to learning both formal and informal /socio -moral learning.
I read an article which talks about the importance of understanding the child's perception
"It's Not What We Teach; It's What They Learn," Education Week, September 10, 2008
http://www.alfiekohn.org/teaching/edweek/inwwt.htm
Allan
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luvmyottb
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Just wanted to welcome you to the board. Others have given good advice and insight.
