Robinboots
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I joined here almost two years ago. Don't remember where I left off, but here's a brief recap:
My son was not quite 15, two years ago November, when he just went ballistic; we had numerous police calls to our home, two false reports filed with DFS by my son - both found to be unsubstantiated. We agreed to in-home intensive therapy thru the state, which only lasted a week as we sent him to military school. This is probably in some of my old posts.
I said from the beginning of this, actually several years prior, that there was "something" wrong with him.
At military school, he did pretty well; grades came up, he made friends...who, of course, didn't last long - fairly typical, for him. He volunteered to work their two-week summer camp. Then he went to my mom's for a week. Pretty sure I mentioned her in some old posts - she believed everything he said, he could do no wrong, etc.
When he came home, he told us he wasn't eating or drinking until we changed our minds about sending him back to school. Claimed he hadn't done either for 3 days and, when we couldn't convince him to eat, or get up and go to the hospital, we had to call an ambulance.
I talked the hospital. into keeping him overnight. He was admitted at 6 into the behavioral unit - a psychiatric evaluation 8 months prior, during the police calls, found "nothing" - and by 9 a.m., the psychiatrist also found "nothing" wrong with him. They did, however, order two weeks of outpatient group therapy.
He improved, went back to military school, was fine until just after Christmas break. There was a fire at school, started in a computer; he reported it and was the "hero" - a few months later, there was nearly a fire in my computer which he had sabotaged but of course, would not admit to. There were also, at school, his report of purchasing an alcohol-laced drink - twice in one weekend - but it was found to be no fault of the store or the machine so....
Then he got expelled; for ordering and using tasers on some of the other students. His public school would only allow him to return to the alternative school, not his old one, and so he dropped out and got a job. Several actually, and was fired from all within 6 months. We told him he MUST get his GED. He stalled.
More police calls. Then he hit me. This time I pressed charges, and he spent 3 weeks in detention, age 16 by now. He was released on probation and was great for 24 hours. Nine days later, he was removed from my home in handcuffs.
The next day, he told some tales, believed fully by a juvenile officer, and was put in "protective custody". He spent a month in a shelter, then went to foster care. He was there, with one famliy, for seven months. When in juvie, they did a psychiatric evaluation - said there was nothing wrong; in the shelter, same thing.
We had family therapy, some visits, some overnights. I kept saying SOMEthing WAS wrong. The judge ruled, over the summer, that we had done nothing wrong, but my son was kept in foster care mostly, I think, to give us a break and a chance to recoup. He came home the end of Oct.
I should also add that he did get his GED in June, and started college classes in August. At least one of which he is sporting a whopping 14%, after finals, because he was skipping and not doing the work; I don't expect the other grades to be any better. He did go back to work again too, about when he came home in Oct.
We thought things were pretty good. Till we discovered one lie, which led to others - basically the first 3 weeks were all a lie. THEN I was told that the psychiatric evaluation in MARCH had ACTUALLY said .........."evidence of conduct disorder and antisocial personality disorder".
All these months, the state has acted as tho WE are the problem, WE have done it -and, God forbid, gotten all over ME for stating that the problem is MY SON. 'Cause that was "blaming" him, you see. I am sooooooooo angry with all of them.
So, we had an expedited hearing this morning - my son was still on probation for hitting me in March. The judge was not happy. Gave him a choice of following the dang rules he laid out months ago, or going back to juvie. AND said he MUST follow any doctor's orders and treatment plan.
This last is very important, because yesterday I took him to his pediatrician, also a psychiatrist - the state would do nothing, and allowed me to do nothing, all this time. It took the doctor reading the forms I filled out, which was basically medication. info and family stuff, a few questions like school history, expulsion, legal trouble, 15 minutes with the two of us and he said:
"conduct disorder and antisocial personality disorder"
And he prescribed Risperdal, .5 mg a day. Unfortunately, it's a battle to get him to agree to take it - first dose about an hour ago, suspect it will continue to be a battle. Fortunately, the judge ORDERED it, so if he doesn't take it, yes, I'll report it and yes, he may go back to juvie.
I just don't know what else to do. I feel horrible. Sorry this is so long, thanks for reading!
My son was not quite 15, two years ago November, when he just went ballistic; we had numerous police calls to our home, two false reports filed with DFS by my son - both found to be unsubstantiated. We agreed to in-home intensive therapy thru the state, which only lasted a week as we sent him to military school. This is probably in some of my old posts.
I said from the beginning of this, actually several years prior, that there was "something" wrong with him.
At military school, he did pretty well; grades came up, he made friends...who, of course, didn't last long - fairly typical, for him. He volunteered to work their two-week summer camp. Then he went to my mom's for a week. Pretty sure I mentioned her in some old posts - she believed everything he said, he could do no wrong, etc.
When he came home, he told us he wasn't eating or drinking until we changed our minds about sending him back to school. Claimed he hadn't done either for 3 days and, when we couldn't convince him to eat, or get up and go to the hospital, we had to call an ambulance.
I talked the hospital. into keeping him overnight. He was admitted at 6 into the behavioral unit - a psychiatric evaluation 8 months prior, during the police calls, found "nothing" - and by 9 a.m., the psychiatrist also found "nothing" wrong with him. They did, however, order two weeks of outpatient group therapy.
He improved, went back to military school, was fine until just after Christmas break. There was a fire at school, started in a computer; he reported it and was the "hero" - a few months later, there was nearly a fire in my computer which he had sabotaged but of course, would not admit to. There were also, at school, his report of purchasing an alcohol-laced drink - twice in one weekend - but it was found to be no fault of the store or the machine so....
Then he got expelled; for ordering and using tasers on some of the other students. His public school would only allow him to return to the alternative school, not his old one, and so he dropped out and got a job. Several actually, and was fired from all within 6 months. We told him he MUST get his GED. He stalled.
More police calls. Then he hit me. This time I pressed charges, and he spent 3 weeks in detention, age 16 by now. He was released on probation and was great for 24 hours. Nine days later, he was removed from my home in handcuffs.
The next day, he told some tales, believed fully by a juvenile officer, and was put in "protective custody". He spent a month in a shelter, then went to foster care. He was there, with one famliy, for seven months. When in juvie, they did a psychiatric evaluation - said there was nothing wrong; in the shelter, same thing.
We had family therapy, some visits, some overnights. I kept saying SOMEthing WAS wrong. The judge ruled, over the summer, that we had done nothing wrong, but my son was kept in foster care mostly, I think, to give us a break and a chance to recoup. He came home the end of Oct.
I should also add that he did get his GED in June, and started college classes in August. At least one of which he is sporting a whopping 14%, after finals, because he was skipping and not doing the work; I don't expect the other grades to be any better. He did go back to work again too, about when he came home in Oct.
We thought things were pretty good. Till we discovered one lie, which led to others - basically the first 3 weeks were all a lie. THEN I was told that the psychiatric evaluation in MARCH had ACTUALLY said .........."evidence of conduct disorder and antisocial personality disorder".
All these months, the state has acted as tho WE are the problem, WE have done it -and, God forbid, gotten all over ME for stating that the problem is MY SON. 'Cause that was "blaming" him, you see. I am sooooooooo angry with all of them.
So, we had an expedited hearing this morning - my son was still on probation for hitting me in March. The judge was not happy. Gave him a choice of following the dang rules he laid out months ago, or going back to juvie. AND said he MUST follow any doctor's orders and treatment plan.
This last is very important, because yesterday I took him to his pediatrician, also a psychiatrist - the state would do nothing, and allowed me to do nothing, all this time. It took the doctor reading the forms I filled out, which was basically medication. info and family stuff, a few questions like school history, expulsion, legal trouble, 15 minutes with the two of us and he said:
"conduct disorder and antisocial personality disorder"
And he prescribed Risperdal, .5 mg a day. Unfortunately, it's a battle to get him to agree to take it - first dose about an hour ago, suspect it will continue to be a battle. Fortunately, the judge ORDERED it, so if he doesn't take it, yes, I'll report it and yes, he may go back to juvie.
I just don't know what else to do. I feel horrible. Sorry this is so long, thanks for reading!