Hi All,
just thought I'd give an update on difficult child 1 who is out in Seattle. I talked with her quite awhile on the phone today. She is 5 months pregnant now and feeling much better--she had severe morning sickness for awhile and was hospitalized with dehydration at one point. She sounds really good and says she has a sense of well being, feels calmer in general I think.
She is going to have to quit her job as an exotic dancer til after the baby comes--she says she will work about another week or so. She says she is wearing a one piece outfit that hides the pregnancy pretty well but that is about at an end.
I asked if she and boyfriend are planning to get married and she said they might but things are going well between them and she is worried that will change if they marry. I think she is probably right and am glad she isn't going to marry him at this point. She says he is going to Alaska for 21 days to work on a fishing dock and will make $5000.00. I never know whether to believe her about these things but it's okay, I just go along. I could probably check with my easy child son who is out there living with them now.
She is very excited about the baby and very interested in its growth and development from week to week. She said she and the boyfriend have had to talk and get things out in the open because of the baby so she thinks that is a good thing. She told him she wants the baby to have a good environment to grow up in and a happy childhood like she had. This was music to my ears, that she values the way she was brought up and doesn't want the baby to live in a chaotic environment like the boyfriend grew up in. Of course, we did have a more chaotic environment than I would have liked, but it was all due to her gfgness!
She also realizes that this baby may be a real challenge since both she and the boyfriend were difficult children. Maybe having been one herself she will handle it better than I did. I know one thing--I don't think she will fall for any difficult child tricks, having done them all herself first!
I am sort of excited about the baby. I think if I had one iota of like or respect for the boyfriend I would feel more excited. I don't know what I even want to do--I mean I don't really want to go out and visit her when the baby is born because of him. I can't stand the thought of having any contact with him at all. I guess I will just take it as it comes, see how I feel once the baby is born.
At least I have some confidence that difficult child can be a good mom and that is a relief. I am trying to be more like Ponygirl and have a more positive attitude. I see that difficult child loves the baby and I do sense a calmness I've never sensed before--when we talked she didn't sound nearly so hyper like she usually does. She is eating well and enjoying the pregnancy now that she doesn't feel so sick.
Thanks for reading through this, friends!
Love,
Jane
just thought I'd give an update on difficult child 1 who is out in Seattle. I talked with her quite awhile on the phone today. She is 5 months pregnant now and feeling much better--she had severe morning sickness for awhile and was hospitalized with dehydration at one point. She sounds really good and says she has a sense of well being, feels calmer in general I think.
She is going to have to quit her job as an exotic dancer til after the baby comes--she says she will work about another week or so. She says she is wearing a one piece outfit that hides the pregnancy pretty well but that is about at an end.
I asked if she and boyfriend are planning to get married and she said they might but things are going well between them and she is worried that will change if they marry. I think she is probably right and am glad she isn't going to marry him at this point. She says he is going to Alaska for 21 days to work on a fishing dock and will make $5000.00. I never know whether to believe her about these things but it's okay, I just go along. I could probably check with my easy child son who is out there living with them now.
She is very excited about the baby and very interested in its growth and development from week to week. She said she and the boyfriend have had to talk and get things out in the open because of the baby so she thinks that is a good thing. She told him she wants the baby to have a good environment to grow up in and a happy childhood like she had. This was music to my ears, that she values the way she was brought up and doesn't want the baby to live in a chaotic environment like the boyfriend grew up in. Of course, we did have a more chaotic environment than I would have liked, but it was all due to her gfgness!
She also realizes that this baby may be a real challenge since both she and the boyfriend were difficult children. Maybe having been one herself she will handle it better than I did. I know one thing--I don't think she will fall for any difficult child tricks, having done them all herself first!
I am sort of excited about the baby. I think if I had one iota of like or respect for the boyfriend I would feel more excited. I don't know what I even want to do--I mean I don't really want to go out and visit her when the baby is born because of him. I can't stand the thought of having any contact with him at all. I guess I will just take it as it comes, see how I feel once the baby is born.
At least I have some confidence that difficult child can be a good mom and that is a relief. I am trying to be more like Ponygirl and have a more positive attitude. I see that difficult child loves the baby and I do sense a calmness I've never sensed before--when we talked she didn't sound nearly so hyper like she usually does. She is eating well and enjoying the pregnancy now that she doesn't feel so sick.
Thanks for reading through this, friends!
Love,
Jane
