WearyMom18
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It's been a while since I last posted. I've been actually trying to live my life and have been quite enjoying it the last few months.
Last I posted, I think my Difficult Child was out on the streets which was the case until last Tuesday when she was arrested for giving the police a false name because of her two outstanding warrants for failure to appear in two different counties.
I was relieved, as was my husband, that she was in jail - safe, not on the street and not on drugs. She's really done it and now it's time to face the music. She has been in the county she was arrested in for a week now and found out today after court that they are considering this week time-served for the false ID charge and now she has to wait 10-14 business days to be picked up by one of the other two counties to face her original charges there. She said, she is likely to spend 6-8 months in jail before it's over.
I'm happy finally and as strange as it may sound to parents that don't have a Difficult Child, I don't think about her much in the course of my day. I'm okay that she's in jail - completely okay for the first time in what seems like forever. I sleep well, I am doing well at work, my husband and I are loving our peaceful home and time together, my bank account seems to drain more slowly (lol) and my phone is pretty quiet these days.
She's an adult, she's made bad choices, they have landed her in jail and she has to deal with that - not me. I feel like I am seeing 20/20 for the first time since she began her Difficult Child behavior. I'm calm, anxiety under control and actually just returned from a short beach vacation with my sister and family and couldn't have had more fun.
There IS life after Difficult Child's and with Difficult Child's - I used to think it was a lifetime of torture but it's not - it's what you make of it. That said, I will tell any parent going through he** with their Difficult Child that it's something you have to learn - you have to learn to accept that you have no control, you have to learn that it's okay to not feel guilty, you have to learn that sometimes kicking them out and cutting them off is the absolute best thing you can do for your child. None of those things just come naturally I don't think but gosh, if you commit to it, let yourself breathe and heal, you too can be happy - and be detached from your Difficult Child and their difficult life.
I can finally say, I'm detached, I'm happy, I'm confident and I no longer carry guilt. I'm alive!
Thanks to everyone here that was absolutely instrumental in showing me the light - I can say with 100% certainty that without this group of people and their absolute sound and healthy advice, I would still be a basket case, wrought with depression and worry and guilt. I can't thank all of you enough and I hope that I can continue to be part of the group to help others that are new here or may be new or struggling with their Difficult Child's situation - it's the least I can do.
XOXOXOXO - (No longer) Weary
Last I posted, I think my Difficult Child was out on the streets which was the case until last Tuesday when she was arrested for giving the police a false name because of her two outstanding warrants for failure to appear in two different counties.
I was relieved, as was my husband, that she was in jail - safe, not on the street and not on drugs. She's really done it and now it's time to face the music. She has been in the county she was arrested in for a week now and found out today after court that they are considering this week time-served for the false ID charge and now she has to wait 10-14 business days to be picked up by one of the other two counties to face her original charges there. She said, she is likely to spend 6-8 months in jail before it's over.
I'm happy finally and as strange as it may sound to parents that don't have a Difficult Child, I don't think about her much in the course of my day. I'm okay that she's in jail - completely okay for the first time in what seems like forever. I sleep well, I am doing well at work, my husband and I are loving our peaceful home and time together, my bank account seems to drain more slowly (lol) and my phone is pretty quiet these days.
She's an adult, she's made bad choices, they have landed her in jail and she has to deal with that - not me. I feel like I am seeing 20/20 for the first time since she began her Difficult Child behavior. I'm calm, anxiety under control and actually just returned from a short beach vacation with my sister and family and couldn't have had more fun.
There IS life after Difficult Child's and with Difficult Child's - I used to think it was a lifetime of torture but it's not - it's what you make of it. That said, I will tell any parent going through he** with their Difficult Child that it's something you have to learn - you have to learn to accept that you have no control, you have to learn that it's okay to not feel guilty, you have to learn that sometimes kicking them out and cutting them off is the absolute best thing you can do for your child. None of those things just come naturally I don't think but gosh, if you commit to it, let yourself breathe and heal, you too can be happy - and be detached from your Difficult Child and their difficult life.
I can finally say, I'm detached, I'm happy, I'm confident and I no longer carry guilt. I'm alive!
Thanks to everyone here that was absolutely instrumental in showing me the light - I can say with 100% certainty that without this group of people and their absolute sound and healthy advice, I would still be a basket case, wrought with depression and worry and guilt. I can't thank all of you enough and I hope that I can continue to be part of the group to help others that are new here or may be new or struggling with their Difficult Child's situation - it's the least I can do.
XOXOXOXO - (No longer) Weary
