Acasia i have read through this post again. last time i was in a hurry and meant to come back sooner. I can not count the times my son now 38 has verbally abused me and threatened me. I totally understand how that feels. One time it was so bad i left town for a few days. I have since learned to block. I have a cell phone that he doesn't have the number to and when he has been abusive i use that phone. Sometimes he is blocked on the other which my husband has as well and the home phone is shut off. Last time was when he first went to jail for 2 months. He wrote letters. They were much more controlled. He has also called with the i am sick i am hungry and so forth. I have answered some and given sympathy but not gone to help. Sometimes he is like a toddler who wants attention. Only you can decide if you want to call. I would call first if you are thinking about going if he is not kind i wouldn't go. I have felt guilt when i haven't gone or responded but when he called a day or two later and was fine ( which he wouldn't have been if things had been as bad as he made them sound) i got over it. I will pray for help in your decision.