meowbunny
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She spent the night last night. It was, shall we say, interesting. I'm not allowed to be angry or upset. It is too late, she's pregnant and it is not my problem, it is hers. Oh, and mom, can you take me to County Health on Monday? Anyone else get the feeling this is the adult child version of "I Hate You But Take Me to Mall" or whatever the exact title of that book is?
I'm not sure how, but it is my fault she is pregnant. I never told her that a guy would say he couldn't father a baby even when he could. Um, no, I didn't mention that line. I did mention that a guy would say almost anything to have sex. I did say over and over that in this day and age a condom is a necessity. Not just to prevent pregnancy but to protect the female from STDs. So, it is all my fault.
It's also my fault she's such an emotional wreck. I guess being severely abused as an infant and toddler had nothing to do with it. Nope, being in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) caused it all. I didn't love her enough to keep her with me.
by the way -- These were some of the kinder things she told me last night.
On top of this, she thinks her roomie won't let her give the baby up for adoption even if she decides to do that. He and his family believe a baby is a blessing. He was planning to move to Miami but will now stay here to help her with the baby. She's waiting for the marriage proposal, which she says she'll turn down. If she marries him, I really am washing my hands of everything. There's no love between them, just a good friendship. He really is lazy and irresponsible (and that's according to both of them).
This morning we were back to the pipe dreams. Some of it is doable -- getting her GED before the baby is born. But now she's decided she should go to college. I bit my tongue. It may be possible in the future but not right after the baby is born. She is so unrealistic. I dread when reality hits her on the face at how hard it is to raise a baby and work, let alone raise a child, work and go to school with no mate in the picture.
Hope everyone else's New Year is a lot better than this one is starting out to be for this household.
I'm not sure how, but it is my fault she is pregnant. I never told her that a guy would say he couldn't father a baby even when he could. Um, no, I didn't mention that line. I did mention that a guy would say almost anything to have sex. I did say over and over that in this day and age a condom is a necessity. Not just to prevent pregnancy but to protect the female from STDs. So, it is all my fault.
It's also my fault she's such an emotional wreck. I guess being severely abused as an infant and toddler had nothing to do with it. Nope, being in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) caused it all. I didn't love her enough to keep her with me.
by the way -- These were some of the kinder things she told me last night.
On top of this, she thinks her roomie won't let her give the baby up for adoption even if she decides to do that. He and his family believe a baby is a blessing. He was planning to move to Miami but will now stay here to help her with the baby. She's waiting for the marriage proposal, which she says she'll turn down. If she marries him, I really am washing my hands of everything. There's no love between them, just a good friendship. He really is lazy and irresponsible (and that's according to both of them).
This morning we were back to the pipe dreams. Some of it is doable -- getting her GED before the baby is born. But now she's decided she should go to college. I bit my tongue. It may be possible in the future but not right after the baby is born. She is so unrealistic. I dread when reality hits her on the face at how hard it is to raise a baby and work, let alone raise a child, work and go to school with no mate in the picture.
Hope everyone else's New Year is a lot better than this one is starting out to be for this household.
