It has been a long time since I have posted, but not as long as it states, 12-31-1969? haha Needed to distance myself for awhile.
My difficult child is now 23, married with a child. On and off work for him. He has been for the last 6 months his usual self, with a bowl full of nerves added. He has gotten behind in payments twice, and taken to court for it, but always then gets it paid off so he doesnt have to go to jail.for back payment in child support. Now the judge says that at his next court hearing that their wont be any lienency, he will be spending 30 days in jail for 24/7. I cannot beleive the judge would do that if my difficult child is actually be working, as it only hurts his present child, as well as the other 3. So what is the truth? He and his family are looking to leave the state in the near future. He believes with distance that the system will not come after him for this. He says this on experience from his wife. Her Dad owes major amt of back child support and they never came after him for the money. I thinks well times have changed, but his wife just turned 22. What are all your expereinces in this?
He has over the yrs made alot of bad choices, and will have to live with those choices, which has indirectly put me in a better place. It is a known fact that this judge that he and his ex fiance has had to deal with for the last 3 yrs, very much sides with his ex. What this judge doesnt know about her, that we have all protected her in a sense so the children wouild not be taken aware from her, my son doesnt want this for her, or his kids.. She is now with another guy that she doesnt commit to, but brings another child into this world. When my son and her broke up the first time, she and her sister stole from my son, and his other roomate which is my sister in law. that she sends his children to her dads house that my husband has been in and is not fit to live in. I am not going into detail as to what got him to where he is at , and no contact with his children, but looking at giving up his parental rights. He will never get to see them as long as this judge is in the courts system, this is how vindictve this man can be. His ex's new boyfriend refuses even my parents to see them, he says "These are his children". What are the possibilites of giving his rights up, is that possible. My son has never claime his da. or twin boys on income tax, so to say she has never recd addtional money, come on.
Tomorrow he finally agreed to come to the hospital that I work at and be checked out for this rectal bleeding, and other symptoms he is having. I can tell he needs something for hisanxiety. Honestly he needs to leave with his family, and make a new start. Go where the pple dont know you. My hometown where he was born, and moved back to is all about who you are. My husbands family has always been in trouble for something over the yrs, starting with their dad... it is the name. When I throw around my maiden name, relate to 2 judges in town, I am so differently treated. In fact my Dad got off for a speeding ticket 57 in a 45mile an hour zone, you all no if he would have been in his 20's ticket time , right?
Nice talkig with all of you,
Jen
My difficult child is now 23, married with a child. On and off work for him. He has been for the last 6 months his usual self, with a bowl full of nerves added. He has gotten behind in payments twice, and taken to court for it, but always then gets it paid off so he doesnt have to go to jail.for back payment in child support. Now the judge says that at his next court hearing that their wont be any lienency, he will be spending 30 days in jail for 24/7. I cannot beleive the judge would do that if my difficult child is actually be working, as it only hurts his present child, as well as the other 3. So what is the truth? He and his family are looking to leave the state in the near future. He believes with distance that the system will not come after him for this. He says this on experience from his wife. Her Dad owes major amt of back child support and they never came after him for the money. I thinks well times have changed, but his wife just turned 22. What are all your expereinces in this?
He has over the yrs made alot of bad choices, and will have to live with those choices, which has indirectly put me in a better place. It is a known fact that this judge that he and his ex fiance has had to deal with for the last 3 yrs, very much sides with his ex. What this judge doesnt know about her, that we have all protected her in a sense so the children wouild not be taken aware from her, my son doesnt want this for her, or his kids.. She is now with another guy that she doesnt commit to, but brings another child into this world. When my son and her broke up the first time, she and her sister stole from my son, and his other roomate which is my sister in law. that she sends his children to her dads house that my husband has been in and is not fit to live in. I am not going into detail as to what got him to where he is at , and no contact with his children, but looking at giving up his parental rights. He will never get to see them as long as this judge is in the courts system, this is how vindictve this man can be. His ex's new boyfriend refuses even my parents to see them, he says "These are his children". What are the possibilites of giving his rights up, is that possible. My son has never claime his da. or twin boys on income tax, so to say she has never recd addtional money, come on.
Tomorrow he finally agreed to come to the hospital that I work at and be checked out for this rectal bleeding, and other symptoms he is having. I can tell he needs something for hisanxiety. Honestly he needs to leave with his family, and make a new start. Go where the pple dont know you. My hometown where he was born, and moved back to is all about who you are. My husbands family has always been in trouble for something over the yrs, starting with their dad... it is the name. When I throw around my maiden name, relate to 2 judges in town, I am so differently treated. In fact my Dad got off for a speeding ticket 57 in a 45mile an hour zone, you all no if he would have been in his 20's ticket time , right?
Nice talkig with all of you,
Jen
