mstang,
I'm getting here late. I'm sorry. On a daily basis, I count down the days until difficult child 1 turns 18 - about 5 months away... On the other hand, I know, somewhere deep down, I'm still going to have to deal with him and his poor choices even after his next birthday...
I wish I had some good advice for you. Unfortunately, I can see myself in the same situation you're in a few months down the road... I think Fran had some great advice - I'm going to try to keep it in mind and use it.
I think I can sort of understand how you feel even though difficult child 1 isn't 18 yet. I want this chapter in our lives over with too - The sooner the better!!! It is so frustrating when we can't get our difficult children to realize how negatively their poor choices impact their lives (and ours too).
Sending hugs and hoping your difficult child comes to his senses soon... WFEN