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I have been absent for a bit, watching grandkids, working my jungle garden and busy with granddaughter who is in the height of her teenage years, a junior now and doing quite well in school. Just came back from a two week visit with mom and sisters. New England in the fall is so beautiful. Mom...

Hi guys, I was browsing through and noticed a change in a members id that was quite obnoxious. I notified Deni and she is working on it. We are not here to offend anyone, Lord knows we’ve been through enough in our lives to have drama here between members. But, such is life. Any new members with...

Hi all, Tornado is back in jail again, picked up by sheriffs on a bench warrant for violating her probation, again. To recap- after reconnecting with family, espousing rehab doctrine, she abruptly left sober living and ran off with her “new boyfriend.” It’s like a bizarre game show, “I’m back! I...

And it did. I took Tornado to the sober home last Friday. She was disappointed that her room was small and that she had a roommate. She wished she didn’t “mess things up” for the last place, as it was better. I reminded her that she was blessed to find a place and to be accepted so soon. That it...

Hello dear friends, Well. I have gone contrary to my closed door policy. Tornado fell off the wagon weeks ago and didn’t make curfew to her sober living arrangement. She got the boot. I got the call from management and had to deal with that old rollercoaster ride. Tornado did text me, asking if...

Sigh. Here we go again. As if to test my resolve and at low times like these, false bravado to stay the course, I received a call from Tornado that Rain is in the hospital. First off, reconnecting with Tornado is a mixed bag of emotions, trying to stay even keeled and hopeful, but also cautious...

Hi all, Hope everyone was able to find some joy over the holidays. For those of us here, we all know how that can prove to be challenging. I have been cautiously and prayerfully navigating my way through the most recent attempt at sobriety by my daughter Tornado. Good news, yes, hopes for...

Hi all, I was hoping to post the good news that one of my wayward daughters was starting to turn around. Again. I think this is Tornados 4th go at rehab. She was sounding different on phone calls, excited at the classes she was taking and rediscovering ways to think and react. Writing letters...

Be careful what you wish for. We were driving up our road late afternoon yesterday and in the near distance a figure was walking a bike uphill. My granddaughter said “Oh no, she looks familar, I think that’s my mom.” I thought it was one of our drug worn neighbors, but lo and behold, it was...

Hello everyone, I apologize for my intermittent posting, I am trying to balance out life and health issues, as well as raise my granddaughter. I have to let you guys know that although I am not here often, I am forever grateful for the help I have received and continue to receive whenever I am...

Aloha all, I haven’t posted in a long time, been focused this summer on helping my Hoku through a severe birth trauma that had her hospitalized and immobile for a few months after delivering her beautiful baby. Thankfully baby is just fine and Hoku is on the mend. Tornado ended up back in jail...

To all of us who live as we do going through the roller coaster of this life with the extreme emotions of parenting children with addiction, then dealing with them as adults refusing to grow up. Hallmark does not make cards for mother’s of addicts. When the road becomes rough And your heart...

Last post I wrote Tornado was in jail awaiting for space to open up for rehab. The judge ordered to keep her incarcerated until that happened. She called me several times with a list of things she would need, seemingly excited to be going to rehab. I wondered if the “get out of jail” card would...

The plot thickens. Tornado has made a couple of calls from jail. Not pleasant. She wanted to speak with her kids. But first she sort of thanked me for taking care of them, then berated me for the situation with her eldest. Again, my fault. In her mind. I picked up because it was Christmas and I...

Chaos began to rear its ugly head in my home again about two months in to having my grands here. For those of you who are unfamiliar, I took in my three grands after they were removed from paternal grandparents home. Both of their parents are on the street, using meth and God only knows what...

It has been awhile since I have posted,(again) been super busy with my grands, it is a whole new ballgame parenting traumatized children. I have a lot to learn, as we navigate this journey and map out triggers, overcome explosive episodes and tirades, all attributed to children’s brain...

Today we drop son off for his six week experience prepping for college. I am excited for him to have this opportunity to test his wings on university living. The grands are slowly settling in and their bickering has slowed a bit with reminders to be peaceable and discuss things rather than...

I have my grands for the summer. They have expressed to me that they do not want to go back to live with their paternal grandparents. They have slowly begun to tell me of abuse. The middle grand had a bad ankle break playing basketball with his 30 year old 6 ft tall uncle who blocked him midair...

Hi all. I was replying to Nomads thread about a parents solution (Mom paid for apartment, bought food, to help her 2o ish year old), then I realized I was hijacking the thread and should just post my own, because it turned into venting and thinking and pondering stirred up questions. I could not...

I have been on a hiatus from CD, busy with holidays and sons graduation and all that comes with that. Tornado was picked up in September for driving without a license, that shows up several times on her past record, but I suppose since she was released her violations are catching up on her...